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What should I not miss seeing on my round the world trip?

Is it unfair to miss this wedding ?

  • I am a school teacher and have a lifestyle of travel, every year I leave for 7 weeks and travel, explore and scuba dive. This year a good friend of mine is getting married two and a half weeks into my holiday. If I want to return for the wedding it will obviously cost me a fair bit in flights and also mean that I cannot travel to far either. I had planned a round the world trip this year to include diving in French Polynesia, I cannot do this if I return for the wedding. It's a good friend of mine who is getting married, though he does also know my lifestyle. What do people think, am I being selfish? I want to be there but I dont want my travel plans and holiday changed for one day. Please help...

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    It is selfish. You basically have two choices: Travel or being there for your friend at an important time in his life. You are choosing travel over the friendship. That is why he's upset. I don't know if you've booked tickets and lodging, but you could say closer to home for the first 2 weeks and THEN go on the Polynesian trip. If you're in the UK, there are countries in Europe that you could explore. Go off the beaten path, take the Chunnel to France and avoid the large cities. This way there wouldn't be a huge airfare to add to the travel budget. How rearranging the itinerary. You could always dive in French Polynesia a week later.

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Travel opportunities will always be there. Your friends wedding will only happen once.

MuNn1

You have already made up your mind and now you are just looking for validation, I see. You say "I want to be there but I don't want my travel plans and holiday changed for one day." So, you are totally inflexable. Go your merry way because that is clearly what you want to and intend to do. Just do not expect this "good friend" to be there when you need support.

Common Sense

Actually yes,I do think you are being selfish.Your friend will never have this day again,you can go travelling anytime.You can go round the world next year,it will still be here

cjsmummy

What are you suggesting? That your friend should have consulted you before getting engaged and choosing a wedding date with his future wife because you might be out scuba diving?? You can reschedule your trip for another time. You're being unreasonable here.

Katey

You do sound a bit selfish: "have a lifestyle..." I would never miss a good friend's wedding for a lifestyle. The world and all it has to offer is always there for the taking. Your friend's wedding is a once in a lifetime event. You're a teacher and don't know the proper use of "to, too & two"? Scary!

joinme4coffee

Clearly your decision, but as I always say, "I pick people over places and food any day".

krissylyn

I do the same thing. I usually spend about 2 months per year travelling for work and another 4 months each year travelling for pleasure. My first thought would be to try to delay the start of your trip. That would still give you 4 1/2 weeks for travel, which should be ample time to dive in Polynesia. Maybe spend the first 2 weeks of your holiday traveling somewhere less expensive like Greece. Greece has cheap flights from the UK and has some great deals right now, and even has diving there. If the first option is impractical, then I think you need to weigh going to your friends wedding versus the importance of your travel plans. No one can make those choices for you. I understand how important travel is because it is my favorite hobby, but my friends are also important too. You have to decide which is more important to you.

Tim

Was your trip or the wedding planned first whatever was is what u should do My solution would be to go on your trip but a nice thing to do would be to Video Call or Skype them and watch the wedding, might cost you a bit but flying back would cost u a lot more if you do use my idea, Dress as if you were there at the wedding, it would look nice that you have still remembered there special day Enjoy Your Trip

Azza

you have a right to be selfish, to put your own needs first . you are free and not neglecting children so do whatever you want.

Nora

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