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What is a good lie to tell my family if I get put on antidepressants? Kind of long. But please some one help!?

  • I have very poor concentration and I started seeing a therapist for it 2 months ago. The therapist doesn't think it is ADHD, she thinks it is due to some depression and anxiety. She suggested that I see a psychiatrist. She suggested that when I see the psychiatrist to mention my irritability and about me witnessing my sisters sexual abuse when I was 8 and she was 7 (I'll be 22 in july and she will be 21 in july). I went to the psychiatrist today but I didn't mention anything the therapist told me to mention, I didn't even mention that I see a therapist. So today after 20-30 minutes with the psychiatrist she prescribed me medication for ADHD, but I didn't take them and I told her I don't have ADHD and that I'm just slow. So she told me to fill out a ADHD questionnaire and come back in two weeks. Now one of the main reasons I didn't tell her anything about the therapist and the recommendations is because she didn't ask and because I am really scared that she is going to put me on antidepressants. My parents and sister know that I am going to a therapist and now psychiatrist for it, so they always ask me what the therapist said. The thing is I do NOT want them to know about my depression,if it is even depression, though I do think it is. Anyways, I'm really scared that if I get put on antidepressants and (they will find out because they will badger me about) they will ask why I am depressed. And I honestly don't know why I am. And if they ask me about it I'll just lie and say that I am not depressed. And I really do not want them to know that I am unhappy, and I am really scared that if I tell them about the antidepressants they will ask me about the incident with my sister, and I have NEVER talked about it with anyone except the therapist. Anytime my mom asks about it I just say I can't remember. I makes me really really anxious, I just don't want to talk about it. I really do not want them to know I am depressed, just thinking about telling them about antidepressants makes me really anxious. I just don't want them to know that I have been unhappy for over 10 years. So I wanted to know if there are any lies I can tell my family about why I was put on antidepressants? I was thinking that if they ask me why I could just say I don't know. But than they will ask what I told the psychiatrist and I don't want to tell them. But they'll keep nagging me about it.I've hid it for years because it just really really do not want them to know. So my question is what lie can I tell them if I get put on antidepressants? Also if you tell the psychiatrist that you are not depressed and that what you are feeling is just human nature would they still put you on antidepressants? Because I was thinking about telling my family that, that is what I told the psychiatrist but she still gave me antidepressants. And I honestly don't want them to know, that I know that I am depressed. Please some one help me with what to tell my family?! I know I haven't even been prescribed or diagnosed with depression or an antidepressant, but I am just trying to prepare just in case because it is making me feel very anxious just thinking about it. And please don't tell me to tell my family the truth about my feelings, because I won't. It makes me really uncomfortable and just the thought of doing it makes me want to jump off a bridge. Thank you!

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    Sounds like it's hard to maintain any privacy in your family. I don't really imagine a lie would make your situation any easier. Seems to me more like it's a case for some serious boundary setting. The whole idea of seeing a therapist is to have a place where you can share very private stuff, right.. - so IMO you're on very solid ground in not wanting them to know what you share there. Now, how to stick with that when they keep 'badgering'..? Likely it's been their experience that the badgering works - you'll eventually tell more than you wanted to tell...? So it'll take some time and hard work to show them it's not working anymore. There are many ways to do this - you could ask to work on this, if you're still seeing the therapist - might even help your concentration. In the meantime, some suggestions for what to say (because these words don't blame, they are less likely to cause a heated argument): Sorry, what goes on at the therapist/psychiatrist is private. Sorry, as i said, i want to keep it private. I appreciate your interest, but the answer is still no. I'm beginning to experience this as pressure - please back off. I'm still experiencing pressure, so I'm ending this conversation and taking a walk - see you in half an hour..

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I would be honest with your parents. If someone lied to you or kept a secret from you for any reason, wouldn't you be upset? More upset than if they told you right a long, to begin with? Also, talk to the therapist and let them know that you prefer not to be on anti depressants. They honestly can't male you take them, but let them know that you don't want a prescriptions for them. But I would tell them because 1. You have to deal with being uncomfortable about telling others the truth, its part of life. I watched both of my parents pass away, on separate occasions, and yes, I have really bad days sometimes, but even though I feel down, I tell people, not because I want them to feel sorry for me, just because I want them to understand that I have moments when I'm extremely touchy, get irritated easily, and, on occasion, just break down and have to cry, which brings me to 2. People will eventually accept you as the bigger person when it comes to conquering your emotions and how you deal with situations. I know that may not have been what you wanted to hear, but that's honestly how I would handle it... I hope it helps and hope things turn out well, whichever method you choose.

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Depression affects everyone. I'm feel like **** & can't really find something fun 2 do! The incident that u explain basically about sexual abuse. Yes its wrong to do that ****, but if not the 1 abused u will show much more empathy & u would 70% chance tighten up your security towards anything related to that incident & sex in general. Which U stated u don't like talking about that! Antidepressants open your vault(security) more, but both can lead heavy on both sides (Suicide) (Succes) I'm not a doctor so for medication I would choose NOT its just my opinion. U got to TALK a lot to your sister or the whole family about that incident or anything related 2 sex. and hey I'm anxious about sex still cause I never done it. Plz don't do anything dumb to upset your family to grieve ok. I got a lot of **** buried as well that will put my family at denial. We just can't think negatively about depression or it just gets worse! Just to let u know i admitted myself into a hospital cause i was dwelling on my _____ past, but that was 4 yrs ago! I'm way better then before but still gotta face my folks which its scary:(

Nikolai

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