How do I help my friend be more mature and less selfish?

How Do I Get Out Of The Friend Zone?? Help!?

• First off, I am Absolutely crazy about this girl. I love everything about her, the way she smiles, the way she laughs, the way she walks, and even the little weird quirks about her. I would do anything just to make her happy, she drives me crazy. Anyways, I have had a crush on her basically as long as I have known her, but I'm really shy. I have known her for about two years, but we have only been friends for about a year. We didn't really talk much until recently, because I have a class with her. I don't have her number or nothing because I'm to shy to ask. I feel like she sorta likes me, sometimes she gives me signs that she likes me, and she always laughs at my jokes, and she walks with me to class, and always talks to me in class, but then other times I feel like she just wants to be friends. She tells me a lot of things, and I feel like she trusts me, and thats where I think that I am being friend zoned, and God only knows how bad I want to be more than a friend to her. Sometimes I feel like I am being awkward when I am around her with some of her guy friends, because I am a lot more mature, and less flirty than them. I'm just not good with flirting, and on top of that I don't want her to get the wrong idea about what kind of man I am, I respect women, that is just the way I have been raised. She has been in a serious relationship recently, but I don't think they will get back together, but her best friend is a guy and I know that he has feelings for her, and now they are in a relationship, but I'm not sure how she feels. She told me herself that she didn't want to be in a relationship with him, but she is dating him, I guess just to be a good person. Also I know for a fact that she used to have feelings for my best friend, and he could have had her if he had wanted to, but he never made a move and he lost his chance, because she got tired of waiting for him to make a move. I respected that, and if she was happy (although it would have killed me on the inside) If it made her happy, I could have dealt with it. I sorta think that she still has some feelings for him. Now I feel like my best friend has feelings for her, and I really don't know what to say to him, because we have been best pals for about 10 years, and I want it to stay that way, but I feel like he blew his chance with her, and I wish that he would back off. I really can't stand a lot of girls my age, because they get on my nerves or are just sluts, but this girl is different. I feel a way about her that I have never felt about any other person in my life. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her, I have just sit back and watched her with someone else for too long, and her last serious relationship was with one of my friends. It kills me to see how other guys have treated her, because I know that she deserves a real man, who would treat her like a queen. I know that I could be that man that she deserves, but I'm just so damn shy, that I can't show her the way I feel. I am just so confused on what I should do, and how can I put my feelings into actions. Can anyone tell me how to get out of the friend zone???

• Answer:

  Make the move. You gotta swallow your nerves and make the jump man. Its the only way. People dont hang around, she will move on eventually if you don't even try, take a chance. The worst that can happen is a bit of bruised pride which heals easy. Surprise her, out of the blue just approach her. Make it easier on yourself and do it if you get a chance alone. Kiss is the easiest way to get it across, wont have to worry about stumbling over words if youre shy. Its worth the leap. Best of luck buddy.