How's high school life in Spain?

Life sucks right now? anyone similar? advice?

• everyone has their ups and downs but this really sucks? anyone help? advice? similar experience? hey yahoo people hows it going, it is normally not my thing to post these kinda things online but I don't really have anyone to talk to these days so I guess I don't have much to lose. Anyways I know everyone has their own problems and ups and downs but my life has really taken a toll for the worst these past 2 years. It seems like I have lost my way or missed something important along the way because I have lost my friends and don't really have a social life. I am 20 years old and it sucks to not have any friends. Believe it or not in highschool I was actually a normal "popular" guy, I had friends, had a few girlfriends, went out, etc. But i don't know what happen but during my last year of high school and since graduation, I have drifted farther and farther from the people i call my friends in high school and now we are mere acquaintances. I guess one of the reason is my own fault because I started skipping out on birthday parties and school events, and hanging out with my girlfriend during my grade 11 year. Anyways my buddies basically got used to me not going out with them and pretty much decided to not call me out all the time or they would leave me out. And obviously the girl and i never lasted and my friendship with my buddies changed because I haven't hung out with them for so long they dont tell me things. Sure I hang out with some of them at times but it's not the same, I mean I don't even care about popularity anymore I just miss the times when I had a group of friends that I could call my own where we could just hang out and tell each other things and knowing that you have each other's backs. To make things worst I haven't had sex or dated since high school which has been almost 2 years. I go to university but rarely made any new friends except for some small talk here and there. Nowadays I spend most of my time going to school, working, going to the gym and staying home and sometimes people call me to hang out and I do sometimes. I mean i am 20, i should be living it up and it makes me sad to know how low i have become. I think it makes it worst because in high school things went well for me and now I hate to admit it but I have become a bit of a loner. In high school everyone as in the same building together and we would always see each other. I miss the good times. I know I shouldn't be living in the past but my present is so lame that I can't stop but reminiscence of the good times. Wow I didn't expect to have typed out such a long piece of writing and I guess I was just wondering if anyone has any advice for me? or similar experience? If u do that would be nice but I guess I was just typing out my feelings and i already feel a little bit better. Thanks if you read my entire post it means a lot. I try to think of happy thoughts and how things will get better. I realize there are people out there that suffer far worse but that doesn't help because what I'm feeling still hurts.

• Answer:

  Mann, I get what you mean. Maybe not soo much about being popular though.. Even though you mentioned that you only really miss having good friends. but yea life sucks. That's why you have to keep on going and living for you. You can't forget the past even if you wanted to. Here's what I'm going through at the moment. I'm a senior in HS. I've moved seven times since the 6th grade.. 4 middle schools. 3 high schools. I used to be outgoing- I kind of still am. But I'm also pretty shy and intoverted which sucks.. I have social anxiety sometimes and it bugs the hell out of me. My parents split. A lot of other crazy **** happened. My mom got diagnosed with cancer last June. - she's beating it. So my little brother and I moved in with my aunt and her kids. Can't do anything over here. Can't even watch T.V. Or movies because everything is blocked or not alloud in the house. -I burry myself in music and books. ---- I'm constantly thinking about all the good times I had with my family. Times I can't ever get back. I keep going, because I know that stressful things like this are just little bumps in the road. So many people go through SO much worse.. Like my little brother, he's going through everything at a fragile age. I only have like 1 good friend I hang out with at this school. So I'm pretty much a loner. You really only need one good friend though. Luckily, I have two best friends who call me and text me errryyday. Ones I can talk to and vent to, without feeling embarrassed afterwards. One of them is even coming down to be my guest at prom. Which is a shocker cause I wasn't planning on going. hha There are so many people, just like your old friends, who are real good at pretending like they're really there for you. You don't need friends like that- you already know. So just seek out decent amazing people. (: I know your unhappy with how your life is going rite now.. But just keep thinking possitively, like you are. I really hope all goes good for you in life, sorry If some things I mentioned were irrelevant.