Why are single, young, male professionals disrespected?

I feel disrespected by my legal guardian and I hate to be disrespected what do I do?

• I am a 18 year old male and I am still in high school and about to graduate this summer and I didn't fail a grade. Ever since I turned 18 my legal guardian/parent has been a total asshole to me. I managed to preserve through her threats and disrespectful comments. However, tonight I came in from hanging out with one of my female friends for her birthday. A group of us went out to a Asian buffet and then went bowling and then I came home. I apologized immediately when coming in the house because I know that she doesn't like when I come in after 11 (it was about 11:30) and I don't do this on a regular its the second time I came in after 11 and both have been before 12. Once I came in my room she asked me "so your drinking now" I responded with a no and then she said "then you must be smoking weed or doing drinks" this is where I felt she disrespected my entire life, identity, and morals. I abhorred the fact that she said something like that, I almost walked back out the door. I have never drank alcohol (no even for communion at church) and I have never smoked weed or abused drugs, I only take drugs that the doctor gives me. My guardian is up in age (53 years old to be exact) and use to smoke weed and drink. I wanted to tell her "I'm not your stupid ***" but I still need her until I graduate otherwise finishing school will become a lot harder. I am a ward of the state, to make it more simple I am a foster child and under the protection of the state. I need some advise. Please and thank you

• Answer:

  Take this as an example of what you do not want to repeat in your life when you get to make choices as an adult. She has had 53 years to be set in her ways and I doubt what your going to say would change that. Just be happy that you do not have to live her life and that you have a young fresh chance to start something new. I believe that this is just another life lesson on how to accept others for who they are and what they choose. You can not change her view on what to expect from teenagers. You can try your best to follow her rules and attempt to understand that at the end of the day she is just a human looking for love, just like you. She may not be acting in a way that reflect this but people tend to try and control other with negativity in hopes that they make a correlation between doing something your not suppose to and negative vibes. In her mind she believes this will somehow shape you into a better person. But I believe you living your life and learning from these experiences and having compassion for others will help shape you more efficiently. But that is a belief and we can not change others. We can only change ourselves. I hope the best for you and im so thankful foryour strength in living life. Its hard to be here and figure out how to get out of suffering. But once you do figure out acceptance andyou have peace inside you can better help others who are lost. You have a great purpose if you choose to.