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How to do the baby freeze move?

I don't like my baby and want to move out for awhile ... how do I explain this to my husband?

  • I never wanted children but no doctor would ever tie my tubes even though I tried many times to get it done. I didn't want the baby when I got pregnant by accident by my husband wanted it desperately so I had the baby anyway. I didn't like being pregnant or giving birth and now I don't really like the baby. I begged my boss to go back to work after a week and a half because I couldn't stand being home with the crying and the diapers and that baby smell I can't stand all day. My husband took off all his vacation leave to stay home for a couple of months. He doesn't get why I don't like the baby even though he KNOWS I have never liked babies. I know I will like her better and bond more when she's a bit older but right now I can't take it. I just need to live somewhere else until the baby is older so I want to move into a campus apartment at the university I work for and stay there for awhile. How do I tell this to my husband in a way he can understand? Btw, I know you will all start crying this is PPD but it's not. I've been to a counselor already and he agreed it's not PPD. I am the same person I've always been my whole life which is someone who does not like babies. I thought maybe having one of my own might change that but it didn't.

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    I never wanted to have kids before and when I found out my fiance was pregnant I was worried. I don't believe in abortion so we had the child. When we brought him home I didn't want to have anything to do with feeding him, changing him or anything else along those lines. But, when it came right down to it I did do all those things. I had sex and it resulted in a child, that's how life is. I love my son and it didn't take long for me to appreciate what a blessing it is to have children. My point it, you had sex and had a child, suck it up and be a parent. If you don't want anything to do with the child now, then you have no business having anything to do with the child later in life. It's the first few years that are the most important for the parental bond. It's not PPD, it's just lazy. I hope that if you decide to move out the father seeks a divorce and permanent custody of the child. At least that child will have one parent who cares(the father).

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tell him "I didn't want a baby, I wanted an abortion, you said no. Now deal with your kid." You being there with a child you don't want will only harm you, your child and your husband.

XOXOX

You don't accidentally get pregnant, the whole, oh my bc didn't work is a bunch of bs, there's a 2% chance of someone getting pregnant while taking birth control like they're supposed to...Also if you didn't want a baby you should have taken extra precautions like birth control and condoms... I don't feel sorry for you, I feel sorry for your innocent baby..Step up, grow up and suck it up. It's to late to complain now...That's a ridiculous idea UNLESS you feel you would harm your child, and if that's the case she needs to be put in a safe home away from you and you need mental health assistance. Get mad at me, i'm being honest.

*SuMmEr*

This is a prime example of why doctors need to stop believing that all women simply must want a child and just do a tubal ligation for women who want one whether that woman already has kids or not. I think you should sue the doctors who refused to tie your tubes for money to pay for extensive family counseling and to hire a full time nanny. Don't listen to the people saying you need to cut off all ties and stuff. If you want to be in the child's life when it's a little over I don't think it will be bad for the child at all. They probably won't even remember you weren't there. Don't forget that you did make a huge sacrifice by carrying and giving birth to the child for your husband and that shouldn't go unnoticed. I think your instincts are right that you just need a break for awhile.

Trixie

Sweety don't feel bad,you're not alone,am 36 weeks pregnant and I hate every minute of it,I do not have any connection with this baby at all,canwait for it to be born,so I can give it to the father

Streng

You're not alone

monique

It will get better when she gets older... like when i got my dog i HATED him and wanted to give him back soo bad but after a month or so i started to LOVE my dog and now i hate myself for thinking i didnt like him so give your baby some time and things will get better, dont let your kid down because if you leave and come back when she is older she will think you hate her and will be really mad at you and think you are a trader, dont let that happen. I hope this helps! :-)

kat789

You should leave now and stay out of the baby life for good cause if you don't love the baby now you do not deserve to be in that baby's life

TillyTally

Grrrrrrrrrrrrr..........just move out, get a divorce, let your husband keep the baby and move on.

Linda R

Sweetheart, look, there's no such thing as "accidentaly" getting pregnant. If you would have been mature and took birth control, you wouldn't be in this situation. You are a terrible mother. How could you say you don't like your own child? If you didn't want him/her, there was always adoption. If parenting isn't for you, let someone who wants a baby adopt yours. I have no sympathy for you. I feel bad for your husband and your poor child.

Sylvie

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