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How can I get him to grow up and start acting like a man/father again?

• I'm 18, my boyfriend is 21. I'm 27 weeks pregnant now, but we found out I was pregnant way back in the beginning of December. We decided to keep the baby and things were really good. In February, I was in the ER twice because of chest pains and my EKG's were abnormal and it was a really tough time. His friends have always been really important to him but, the doctors thought there could be something seriously wrong so he stopped hanging out with them to take care of me. We spent every day together, him doing everything for me, and we'd read about baby stuff and he'd talk about what he wanted to do as a father and stuff and it was great. In March, we started looking for new places to live and I got really stressed out and became incredibly depressed but couldn't come to terms with it. When we moved, it was a town away from his friends and his parents but he was fine with it. At the new house, my depression worsened and my asthma got really bad and I never wanted to get out of bed so in turn, i never wanted him to either. We would fight all the time and I would always tell him to get out even though I didn't want him to. He left me about a week and a half ago, and I got help for my depression and stuff. He started hanging out with his friends again, and the second day we were apart he drank and got high. I went into labour and was in the hospital all day and when he found out, he didn't even ask how I was doing. We got back together a few days ago but, he told me the only way he'd be with me is if I put the baby up for adoption, which I assumed was just his nerves so I let it go. Turns out, he just wants to hang out with his friends ALL THE TIME now that he's started doing it again and didn't wanna have to lose all his money and stuff paying child support. His parents found out he wanted to put the baby up for adoption and they kicked him out of his house and now he's living with me again and he understands that I am keeping the baby, no matter what because that'd been my decision from the beginning. I pay for everything. I pay for his food, his gas, his extra things for his car. He has never paid rent, ever here and instead of appreciating it anymore all he says is, "you choose to do it." I still let him hang out with his friends but he goes out at 1 PM and comes home at 11:30 or 12 AM. He wants to hang out with them 4 days a week and me 3. I'm pretending like I'm okay with that but, today when he gets back from his friends house I really wanna know how I can convince him to start staying home A LOT more because I'm on bed rest and I'm always in pain(I don't acknowledge it around him) and it's incredibly hard for me to do things. I really just want him to maybe hang out with his friends on the weekends or something and be with me on the weekdays because my mum isn't here and he's the only other car. So, what can I do to make him grow up again and start acting like a man and taking care of me like he used to? How can I get him to just, hang out with his friends on the weekend and stay home during the week? How can I get him to see how much I need him here? /:

• Answer:

  He's right, you choose to do it. You let him mooch off you and he's not going to change if he can have his cake and eat it too. Explain that you have a baby coming and you need to prepare for that baby, but his presence and the burden he creates makes it difficult for you to prepare for your baby, so he needs to move out. When the baby comes, if he hasn't changed his priorities, leave him be. He will see his child on weekends and send support through the courts on payday.