What is a deterministic push down automaton?

He tells me I push him to hit him and now tells me I have to stop what i'm doing or he'll keep doing it?

• Today arguments...How it all started. The first argument of the day started when my boyfriend said someone (meaning me) put loads of things where he had a letter and that it wasn't where he left it. I had only put my pregnancy notes where he said and he was claiming I'd moved a load of documents where he had his letter. It seemed deliberately directed at me and on purpose. It seemed like he was having a go at me for putting my notes in a place where my child wouldn't ruin them. So I got upset. I said I hadn't put loads of things on the self and that it didn't need to be said. He said as he didnt say it to me it was fine and was just an observation. I said that it was wrong as I'd only put one thing near his letter. The thing that bugged me the most is that he found his letter straight away and just said it for the sake of saying it. So it all blew up and he couldn't admit that what he said could hurt someones feelings if they were sat right next to them. He then got physical. Let me remind you I'm pregnant. Our other child was out so he didn't see anything. He says I push him to hit me as I keep on going repeating what I've said. I only repeat what I say as it doesn't seem like he gets what he has done is hurtful or what he says isn't right. Then he appeared to be all sorry for a few hours. Then he asked for some drink from me and I said yes. He got food from the kitchen and then he took the drink. I said don't take it away, with a little pouty face and I was joking. He took it the wrong way. I quickly tried to make him see I was joking. Then I told him that wouldn't it be easier to sit down and pour the glass or let me do it as it was right next to me. Big mistake!! Took that the wrong way too. I was just trying to be helpful but apparently came across as patronising. He just got really angry with me. I said I was just trying to help as didn't want him on his feet too long and just wanted to do something for him. He said he didn't give a f*** as it was just a drink. Then escalated again. I said let's forget it but no he couldn't. He carried on and when I said I wasn't listening and tried to cover my ears he grabbed hold of my arms so I'd listen. I started singing loudly to drown him out and then he pulled my hair and shouted at me. Then he dug his nails in me. I pulled his hair to try and stop him which he did. Anyway the thing is he says I have to stop pushing him but I don't know how. I think he needs anger management as well as me learning not to keep repeating what I've said to him which pushes him to hit me. He just wants me to stop so he stops but that won't cure his anger deep down. I said that is putting everything on me. WHy can't he get help while I'm trying not to push him to the limit? I know you'll say leave him but really it isn't that easy. I've tried but he keeps me in the house or threatens me with something and then guilt trips me. I love him but hate him. I want to leave but so want to stay. I want to take my babies away from this but he has such a hold on me I don't know what to do.

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  Sorry about your lost* Kathy* bit u REALLY need to get out NOW! Your child is gonna feel thats its ok to be abused!