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What should I do about my brother in law's wife?

• I apologize in advance for the length of this explanation, but I feel it is important to include such detail. My husband has a brother who is married. He is married to a girl that is the same age as I am, which is 23, but my husband is 33 and his brother is 27. We have to travel quite a long ways to visit with my husband's mother and all of the family that is down there, including the brother and his wife. I need to know if what I am feeling is incorrect or if I need to approach this situation from a different perspective. I could really use some insight. I met my brother in law's wife back in 2008 which made us both 19 at the time. They were not married then and neither were my husband and I. They had to get away from a hurricane at that time so the entire family that lives down there drove here until the hurricane blew over. From the very moment I met her she has had a hate complex towards me, I believe. She will literally look at me with disgust. She will not say a kind word to me at all and yet she won't shut up. She has always cheated on my brother in law, my mother in law actually had a private investigator follow her to prove to my brother in law what she was doing. There was picture documentation with multiple men. She has called me slut, a whore, a worthless piece of city trash, a liar, and so on. I have never conducted myself to her or around her in anything other than a respectful and tasteful way. I don't even cuss. I feel there are better words to speak with than dirty words. I gave my virginity to my husband before we were married and we got married in October of 2009 and had a beautiful baby girl together who is now almost 3. I have never been with another man other than my husband. This girl gave her virginity to her cousin, and she proclaimed this herself, her first cousin, slept with several other men, and then got pregnant her sophmore year in highschool and had a child before she graduated highschool and she has absolutely no clue who the father is. You ask her and she honestly says she has no idea because she slept with nearly 10 men in the time that she got pregnant. But yet she calls me horrible names. She was having so many relationship problems with my brother in law and he caught her cheating one night. They broke up the day before me and my husband got married. She was so angry that she actually walked around my wedding and was telling vicious lies about how I was already having an affair and that our daughter was not my husband's and so on. I had to actually have her thrown out of my wedding. She made some kind of deal with my brother in law, self proclaimed by her that she would please him sexually in any way that he wants as much as he wants if he just marries her. So less than 6 months after my wedding, she had hers. She literally had to do everything bigger than my wedding and she said so to my face. I had 3 bridesmaids, she had 5. I had a 2 tier wedding cake, she had a 6 tier. I had one flower girl, she had 4. I spent $400 on my wedding gown, she told my brother in law that she would not marry him if he didn't give her the dress she wanted which was more than $2000. And it looked hideous!!! My wedding was simple and respectful and fun-loving. It was like a family get together where a wedding just happened to be taking place. I was kind and respectful to all of my guests from both sides of the family, we danced, laughed, at food, etc. It was the perfect day. At her wedding, she was the most vicious and disgusting bridezilla I have ever seen. She was mean to everyone, barking orders, yelling at everyone to walk a certain way, that she wanted my daughter to be her flower girl, and when the other 3 flower girls had beautiful dresses that were white with silk and taffeta and flowers, she dressed my daughter in a hideous camoflauge dress and she said it was because my brother in law likes camoflauge. I asked him and he said he only likes camoflauge on one thing, his rifle. The last time we went to visit the family, which was back in January 2012, it took us almost 11 hours to get to the house. Her and my brother in law were there. She was sickeningly nice, she volunteered to help bring in the luggage and other things. Her and I no more than got around the rear of my truck and she stopped and said in a very angry tone, "You're just a tramp that got lucky. I hate when you guys come to visit." Now am I crazy to think that she dislikes me so badly, or am I missing something or just not understanding the situation?

• Answer:

  I think she is jealous of you and she is doing everything that you have mentioned out of jealousy. The best way to deal with her is to ignore her and avoid meeting or talking to her as much as possible. She will not change her attitude towards you.