Is it necessary to wear a condom while on birth control?

Boyfriend doesnt want to wear a condom when i get birth control?

• Me and him are 16. He had his first time before, and he told me his ex was on birth control and that they he didnt wear a condom sometimes I might get birth control I lost my virginity to him.. he had sex twice already... and he was like ''we wont have to wear a condom anymore'' i said no we are. i want to be safe and he got all mad.. I mean, i hate his ex, and idk what that thing could have. Im not having sex without a condom. I refuse to. But why is he getting mad...? ): makes me upset...

• Answer:

  Ok - first off, some people will say that 16 is too young to have sex. I would usually be one of those people - especially if you were 14 or 15, which really is too young - and also except that I realize that the age of consent in most of the US is actually 16. I still think you you may be too young overall - but I understand that you're going to do what you've already started doing. I did the same thing myself, so I know. Im just saying - you are a beautiful young woman and don't have to do this to get approval from boys or anybody. If you dont want to have sex, dont let some guy pressure you into it. Second: if you want him to wear a condom - then he has to wear a condom - its that simple. You have every right to ask him to wear one if it makes you feel better. If you are concerned about catching diseases from his ex, then its fine for you to demand he wear a condom. Now, whether he actually agrees to wears one is another matter, or if he ends up letting it "slip off without him noticing" is another matter. Guys are sneaky. They will lie to you and tell you that they wore one when they didn't. They will tell you they didn't come in you when they actually did. Third: be careful with birth control. You said you "might" get birth control. But you might not either right? While some people laud the health benifits of birth control there are also health consequences and side effects that other people dont always tell you about, especially for younger teens. The horomones effect some people worse than others. You just might be better off waiting until youre older before getting on birth control. Definitely talk to your doctor about it. FWIW, I had such bad reactions to birth control when I first tried it as a teenager, that I flat out refuse to let my 15 yr old daughter take it, even though she begs me to get her a prescription. Shes just too young to be re-tooling her body's chemistry like that. So carefuly consider your decsion about birth control is all Im saying. You really will not regret waiting an extra two years or so before starting on the pill. Above all - just take care of yourself and respect yourself and do what you know is best for you in your heart - whatever that is. Whether that means listening to other peoples advice on here, or listening to your own conscious. You know deep down what is best for you and what you need to do for you!