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How do I break up with my boyfriend?

My boyfriend wants a break and I'm so confused and hurt and I need advise on how to handle myself ?

  • it started out perfect everything was lerfect as usual he stayed over was affectionate like always and telling me how much he loved me ad never wanted to lose me and cuddlinjust the same morning but because we wanted to spend the day together and he planned to spend it with me but organized something else half way through the day for an hour, I got annoyed cus we had to plan our day around his gym session, which he could have missed for the one day we get off together... He kept telling me I was making such a big deal out of something stupid an to stop over reacting but I just wanted him to see it from my POV. So it turned into him yelling at me saying he can "never resolve anything" and he "can't say anything" when he could have he just chose to ignore the reason I was upset. So then he messaged me saying he loved me so much and I do truly make him happy but we need a break cus he can't resolve anything and he can't think of anything else to do, that he didn't want it to be permanent and he knows how he feels about me and that he wants and loves me. That was yesterday , then tonight I ha had enough of being ignores so I messages him saying "I can't do this it's not fair of you to leave me hanging if I mean that little to you that you can do easily go without me maybe we should just break up" he rang me and said he didn't wanna break up, he just needed this break for us to get better and for us to think about how much we really mean to each other, to know how we really feel and to miss each other.. His voice was soo down he sounded so miserable like he was disgusted to talk to me! Eventually I got sick of him giving me short responses and said okay take the time you need but I'm not getting strung along and said "cya" and he said "please just THINK about things , think about everything, cya" I'm so confused I feel so crap and SO SO guilty, I know we argue but I do so much to make him happy and every other day things are perfect. Advice please? How do I handle this?

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    That does not sound like youre trying to make him happy. You definitely need to give him space....24 hours is not enough. Don't keep annoying him with texts and calls until he calls or texts you. Even if its a couple of days. And don't go doing anything else stupid in the meantime you'll regret if he comes back okay.

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OK, sounds like maybe you should try looking at his point of view too. He sounds like he really cares for you and maybe you should try just talking to him instead of cutting to the chase ya know. maybe you were over reacting a little, but its OK because we all make mistakes. i think hes just frustrated is all. just give a little bit of time, maybe you hurt this feelings when you said "I can't do this it's not fair of you to leave me hanging if I mean that little to you that you can do easily go without me maybe we should just break up". if its meant to be then it'll be OK :) just slow your roll and breath, im sure everything will turn out fine. i hope my advice helps at least a little.

All couples get into arguments sometimes, its part of being in a relationship. The best advice I can give you is to give him space and time. The more you push things and go after him, the more you are pushing him away from you. I know you want everything to be perfect and to make him happy, but no relationship is perfect and sometimes people just need time away from each other. Look at it this way honey: he is not breaking up with you, he said he just needs time to think over things and feel how much he misses you. Like I said before, give him time and space, and in the meantime, you need to do something for yourself. Do something you enjoy, hang out with your girlfriends, spend time with your family. When you are okay being by yourself and happy with who you are as a person, it will attract guys to you and only then will you be able to be in a relationship. The most important thing I have learned is that you don't need a guy to be happy. So don't worry about it. If it is meant to be, he will come back to you. I hope it works out for the best.

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