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How to stop my 17 year old daughter from being a tramp gone wild?

• My daughter is having sex with her boyfriend and she's been with him for two years. She claims that she loves him and that he loves her, but it doesn't matter. She's too young to have sex and she should have her nose in her school books and not in between her boyfriend of two years' legs at 17 years old. Even though they use protection and she told me that he's been tested for STDs. I've been thinking about moving put of town and making her break up with him altogether to make her stop having sex. She is a straight A student but as long as she keeps acting like a slut her grades will eventually go down. And no 18 year old boy is going to stick in a relationship for two years because he "loves her". He's using her for sex and it's only a matter of time before he leaves her. And another thing, I can take him to court and try to get him charged with statutory rape, because he's 18 and she's 17. I've searched her room And found condoms and birth control pills so I threw them out and grounded her. I took away her cell phone and her tv because she needs to understand that there will be dire consequences for her having sex at 17, 18, or even 19. She should have waited until she was 21 or until she's married. I really don't get why she feels like she needs to have sex now at such an early young age. I never taught my daughter that what she's doing is okay. I've waited until I was married to her father when I was 26. I thought she would follow my example And respect my wishes for her because I'm her mother. And she's disrespecting me by continuing to disobey the rules. I think I should take her on one of those talk shows where they bring the bootcamp to them so that she can learn that she doesn't know how to wipe her *** yet therefore she can't be having sex. Does anyone know what else I should do? And how can I make her understand that as long as she lives under my roof, she will NOT have sex?

• Answer:

  It is apparent that you are under severe stress because of this situation with your daughter. Here are some facts: She is keeping up with her academic classes; she is with one boyfriend and not several and using birth control; She is seventeen years old and about to finish high school; she is in love with the boyfriend. I see a normal teenager with one boyfriend. A highly intelligent student and responsible girl. All I hear from you is that is a "tramp gone wild." Your facts do not support your position. Unless you lock her up in a cell, which is against the law, no cell phone, no TV, grounding shall change her mind as this in an emotional issue and she is looking forward to the future. Perhaps this relationship may not last on its own. Have you considered that? Rather than alienating her have you considered being a supportive mother instead? Sure, you do not approve not wish to encourage her behavior. But there is not much you can do at the moment. All you are doing is imposing your values on her and she clearly has different values as to relationship now and sex now. So, count your blessings. She could be flunking out of school, barefoot and pregnant and demanding support from you. Sorry to not be on your side. But eventually, sooner that you think, your daughter shall leave the home for a life of her own or perhaps college. Then what? If you need to resolve this issue, you first need to resolve your internal sufferings. I suggest therapy that can provide some techniques to help you adjust to the current situation. OK? Once you get your own feeling straightened out you can then deal a bit better with the daughter. If her father somewhere near or is he absent? That might be a factor. Best wishes.