Should I break up with my boyfriend?

I don't think I'm in love with my boyfriend anymore how do I break up with him?

• Well I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now and I never thought the day would come where I would be questioning myself whether or not I love him. He is 31 and I am 21 years old and this is the ONLY serious boyfriend I have ever had. He wasn't the best boyfriend back then but I was still head over heels in love with him and now he's the perfect man but I treat him with no respect. We moved in about a year ago and as time progressed I started to see what a slob he is which is a HUGE problem for me because I am a neat freak. I don't even have the desire to sleep with him anymore, I would much rather play with myself. Whenever he asks me to do something I smack my lips and say no (back then I would have jumped up at every command). When we first moved in I always catered to him and he would treat me like s***, he wouldn't even come home sometimes and I would sit and cry all night. Now he is a completely different person, he rarely goes out and he does anything I ask him to do but for some reason all I do is nag at him and boss him around. Everything that he does bothers me, he never does anything right. It could be the smallest issue like leaving a cup on the counter but I would make it a big issue and argue about it. He really pisses me off because he keeps doing the same things that he knows bothers me (we have discussed this many times). He's like a kid that you have to keep saying no to. To make matters worse is he has 3 kids (14, 7, 5) that annoy the hell out of me. They are dirty just like their mother and father and I always have to keep cleaning up after them. I hate when they come over and I literally stay in my room the whole day or leave. Sometimes I can hang out with them but most of the time they just annoy me. But I've also noticed that ALL kids annoy me. A lot of girlfriends hate their boyfriends kids because they are jealous but I am not jealous of them at all, I would love for all of them (including my boyfriend) to go out and leave me in the house alone. My boyfriend and I were trying to conceive some months ago but now all of the sudden I want to get on birth control which I was totally against. I no longer want to have sex with him and every time he's not around I play with myself. He has NEVER given me an orgasm! I just felt what an orgasm felt about 3 months ago with my own hands. Lately I have been wanting to meet other guys. I never had any fun because I've been tied down since I was 16. I have only been to the club 2 times. He is the perfect guy and I know I love him but I don't think I am "in" love with him anymore. He gets along with all of my family and I get along with all of his family and love hanging out with them.I don't know if this is just a phase I am going through or if I'm just tired of all the bs that he has put me through. I'm leaving so much stuff out but I'm trying to include all the things that have led up to me feeling this way. I am a caregiver and make good money to support myself. He does not make much and would not be able to support himself if we were to break up. I pay rent and bills, he does not willingly give me money but if I ask then he will definitely give me money but why should I have to ask? If I were to break up with him he would have nowhere to go and I think about this a lot. I still care about him and don't want to see him struggle. People tell me not to care because he is a grown man but I just feel bad because he needs me. I know I deserve so much better and the only reason why I sometimes struggle financially is because of him. Their is so much more to my story but these are SOME of the reasons I feel have lead me to feel the way that I am feeling. What do you guys think? Any advice?

• Answer:

  You are 21. Walk away, don't look back and move forward. You have your whole life ahead of you. Just tell him that you want to break up.