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Non custodial parent isnt taking visitation but is lying about why they cant.?

• My stepdaughter lives with my husband and me. Her mother was so neglectful that the judge took away custody. She is scheduled to get her every other Wednesday and every other weekend. For the past 7 months she has missed a total of 27 visits with her. When she misses a visit she will not call her daughter and tell her daughter why she is missing, she just sends my husband a texts and says she cant pick her up because blah blah blah. Its always excuse after excuse. Recently she missed a visit because she said she was in the hospital. On a previous occasions as well as this one I have found out that in fact she wasn't in the hospital. I found out through Facebook that she was instead either with her friends having cookouts or is babysitting her friends kids. She NEVER calls my stepdaughter when she misses a visit. She will text us 2 weeks later and say she is sorry she didn't call but that she just got her phone turned back on. Yet she has been on Facebook everyday.On about 8 occasions in the last 7 months she has missed the visit but didn't call or leave a text. Then about 2 weeks later when she is scheduled to pick her up she never mentions anything to my stepdaughter about why she missed the visit. She just acts like it never happened. She does this all the time. Like this time it has been 2 wks since she has seen her heard from her mom. But again her mom has been on Facebook everyday since her missed visit Also when she misses a visit she will text us (when she actually texts) about 5 mins before the scheduled visit so we are already at the meeting place. In a recent situation we were at the meeting place and she texted us about 2 mins after she was suppose to get her and told us that she couldn't get her. My husband asked why couldn't she tell us this before we waisted gas, time and stepdaughter's emotions again and she said she forgot what time the visitation was suppose to start, she thought it was at a later time. We have been doing the same visitation for almost a year now so you would think she would know by now what time she gets her. I cant even remember the amount of times we have showed up at the meeting place and her mom doesn't show up so we texted her and get no answer so my stepdaughter calls her and her mom doesn't answer her either. Then a couple mins later her mom will text us and say sorry she cant be there blah blah blah. We have recently told her that if she is going to miss a visit that she needs to call daughter and tell her herself that she wont be there because we are tired of making excuses for her. She said she would start calling her. She did it on the last two out of 3 visits because she missed them again but like this last visit she again sent us a text and said she would call daughter but that was Friday night. (suppose to be her mom's weekend with her and she missed it.) Here it is Monday morning and she hasn't contacted her yet and I can bet on my life she WONT talk to her again until her next visit with her( that's if she shows up). Since majority of the visits are missed on a Wednesday visit my husband was wondering if maybe a judge would terminate her Wednesday visits for awhile. He is not wanting to do this to punish anyone. He is wanting to do this because he is getting tired of the hurt my stepdaughter goes through when her mom doesn't show up. Also we were hoping that her mother could be made to contact my husband a couple hours ahead of time before weekend visits to make sure she is going to pick her up because it has happened too many times where we are sitting with a sad child in the back of the car watching every car that goes by wondering if her mother is going to show up. Her mom has no job, so she has no means of getting a car. Even though on recent occasions she has come into some money but because she was arrested for a DWI(when she had stepdaughter) she has no license. Also I know this really has nothing to do with the visitation but since the child support order went through which was last September her mother has not paid a penny on it yet. She is about $1600.00 behind. Cant pay her support but can afford internet, satellite, data plan on her phone and other misc things that she doesn't need. Anyone know what can be done? My husband has already told her that she needs to get it together for this child. She just doesn't listen and its sad because my stepdaughter is starting to think her mom doesn't care about her. But with the way she is treating her daughter Im starting to think she really doesn't care about her daughter.

• Answer:

  Maybe the reason why she won't visit is because you are in the equation and she is taking it out on her daughter. Maybe if you go to have your nails done or go shopping while she picks up her daughter from your husband maybe she will actually come by. Or maybe she is just not the sort of person that's interested in being a Mom. And if this is the case why don't you have your husband get his ex to sign her rights to the child away and you can apply to become the adoptive parent. This woman can be charged with abandonment/neglect and her rights as a parent can be terminated and if she does give birth to any future children they will be taken away from her.