Can I clean my convertible top with resolve?

How can I find true "resolve"?

• So I've been debating asking this question for about a year, but heck, here it goes. So I'm a junior in high school, and this weird ritual called prom is coming up. My friends all talk about who they're bringing, how much fun it's going to be and all that spiel; this got me to reconsider a problem I've been running from for a year. For the longest time I've had an internal conflict to which I am unable to solve. On one side is my emotions, which ache for this girl at school who I've been crushing on since my first day at my new school. She's brilliant, nice, helpful and (dare I say the word) beautiful. (I feel like a moron for saying this on here) Her smile just blows me away, and I can't possibly say anything more than a hi, and even that's a rare occurrence. On another side is my logic and determination, which are at constant battle with my emotions, saying that I couldn't afford to get into a relationship while I'm still in high school. They say that I should instead keep my awesome grades up, so I can get out of high school as part of the top 10% (currently in the top 15%) of my class. That way I'll get accepted into a good college and hopefully later on into medical school. They say that I have no car, so going on dates is impossible, that I have 0 relationship experience (sadly true) and that because I'm incredibly timid I'd botch this up and make a fool of myself. In addition, a relationship would make me lose the precious time that I could use to study (I'm not terribly brilliant like the girl I'm talking about, I just work my **** off a lot more than most) and my grades are going to drop. They also say that if my parents were to find out, I'd be as good as dead. Which brings me to the final side of the conflict: my parents. They tell me that right now a relationship is NOT happening. When I told my mom about my crush, the first thing she asked is "what do you intend to do with this girl?" Really, I'm not even that type of guy -_-. My parents say that they could only accept me getting a relationship when I am a junior/ senior in college. Right now, I could very well get myself into a big mess (STD, pregnant girlfriend) so it's better to steer clear of women right now because they will in a sense screw me over. Though my parents are strict, I still care about them and their words do in fact hold some relevance to me. I suppose the situation would be different if this only affected me, but my relationships with others are also getting hurt. I find myself withdrawn from social interactions and be the quiet guy in the corner who only speaks when talked to. I try to be the supportive friend kind of guy but that's ended in failure. And more recently, combined with my repeated failure to get a good grade in math class, I'm slipping up, saying the stupidest of things which don't get me anywhere. I just want an answer to my problems so I can go on living my life as the cheerful, slightly carefree guy I used to be without putting forth incredible effort. So I have three options: Follow my heart and try my luck at asking this girl out to prom (assuming she doesn't have a boyfriend.....and there's mr. logic speaking), Follow my head and forget about this, or follow my parent's advice (before anyone jumps to this please consider that this is what I've been trying to do for one year). Each choice has its ups and downs, and due to my inability to come to a conclusion and resolve this, I'm undergoing some intense stress. Could some one please tell me what I have to do to get some peace?

• Answer:

  Woah buddy, calm down a little. Follow your <3 if you've been thinking about this for over a year and you know you want it, go for it. You said you would lose study time and your grades will drop because of being in a relationship? It's not like you're going to be together all the time and if she's brilliant, you'll have a girlfriend and a study partner :) As for your parents, if you stay honest with them and tell them how you feel they will accept it. If not give them the "I'll do it and you can be happy for me or I'll do it against your will and you can be against me" they only want to see you happy :) So you can either go for it and be glad you did, or dismiss it and regret that you didn't.