How should I deal with people I don't like at work?

Why do i like people at work and my customers but at night i dont want to talk text and hate people stoppin by?

• I have a very likable personality, im generous good with people and very charismatic. I am great with customers and really enjoy seeing them, but when i go home i get very depressed high anxiety and look out windows in fear of someone stopping by. I worry my house is not neat and in order which it is mainly, I have the worst nights ever. if people do stop by i get in a terrible mood its like i shut down after work. Side note i have signs of bi-polar and i have bad mania and nerves at home. but at work im stable and appear normal, WHY ARE MY NIGHTS SO TERRIBLE? PAINFUL EVEN?

• Answer:

  Sounds like you need some down time for yourself. You're putting yourself out there for your customers and require time and freedom and solitude to pull yourself back together. It can be exhausting to keep smiling and stay positive while interacting with strangers (customers) and near strangers (co-workers). Your home is probably perfectly okay as far as neatness and cleanliness, but you seem to be using that as an excuse. You don't need an excuse. You have every right to your privacy, your time, and your own personal interests. To avoid seeing people, don't answer the door, don't pick up the phone if it rings, don't stand in front of windows or sit on your patio in full view of possible visitors. If anyone asks why you're making yourself unavailable, tell them you're doing yoga and meditating as prescribed by your doctor. Or that you're studying for a final exam for an online course. Or say that you've turned off the phone and doorbell so that you can concentrate on a computer program you're working on. Or just give them a blank stare for a moment and then inquire, "Why on earth would you ask someone such an invasive, intrusive, personal question?" Then change the subject. .