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What does it feel like to have wanderlust?

I'm 21 years old & don't feel like I'm as smart or as mature as I should be for my age. What's wrong with me?

  • I'm 21 years old, and I feel like everyone I know is smarter than I am, or at the very least I feel as though I'm not as smart or as mature as I should be for my age. I have a friend who's 22 years old, and he's in his last semester in college and is going to law school next year. I have another friend who's 20 years old, and he only has 2 semesters left before he graduates with a bachelors in engineering. Most of the other people I know are in similar positions... i.e. they know what they want their careers to be and are almost completely done with their bachelors degrees. I, on the other hand, have absolutely no clue what I want to do with my life. I barely have 20 credits under my belt from a community college, and the only thing I've ever felt as though I'd be interested in making a career out of (music) I feel as though it wouldn't come close to measuring up with the careers of my peers or of my siblings even (my brother is an engineer for Dell, the computer company, and he rakes in about 180k a year at the age of 29, and my sister is a radiology technician for the hospital, and she rakes in about 100k a year at the age of 27). When I'm around other people I've made connections with back in highschool (people who I feel are less smart intellectually than my previously mentioned friends) I feel equally surpassed in maturity, not necessarily in behavioral maturity but definitely in experiential maturity because most of them have had many girlfriends and jobs and life experiences (I've had one girlfriend that actually counted, one job that actually counted, and few important life experiences in my life. Btw when I say it actually counted, I mean it lasted longer than a month.) and they are caught up with all the pop culture elements and latest fads that I've never had much interest in. I'm not saying that I should be interested in those types of things, I'm just trying to convey that I literally have nothing in common with alot of the people whom exist within my social network. So basically, I feel that no matter which way I turn, I'm going to be overshadowed by someone in some way. And maybe that's just a part of life, knowing that there's always going to be someone out there who's better than you on some level, but I don't feel like it should be everyone you encounter, and that's what it currently feels like to me. I feel socially awkward, especially around new people, but even sometimes around friends I've had for years because I'm either not caught up with whatever pop culture reference or latest headline in whatever subject they're talking about, or I literally have no input on the subject they're talking about. I don't just feel this way every now and then like most people, I feel this way almost all the time. I don't feel like it's natural or even healthy. Sometimes I feel like I worry and think way too much about other peoples' expectations of me or what they think about me, but I know there are other people who do the same thing that aren't as bad off as me. I'm not trying to complain or feel sorry for myself right now either; I'm simply trying to communicate how it actually is. I am ready to change my ******* life; I want to change my life and start fresh and have a career and accomplishments and knowledge and be the kind of person that I want to be and that I know I can be, but I just don't know how or where to start or what to do... There must be somebody out there reading this who's got nothing better to do than to help me. Please!!

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    A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks, he becomes. Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948) The mind is its own place, and in itself Can make a Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven. John Milton, Paradise Lost, Chapter 1 (1667) If you break your neck, if you have nothing to eat, if your house is on fire - then you got a problem. Everything else is inconvenience. Robert Fulghum If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. Marcus Aurelius (A.D. 161-180) Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the nonpharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality. John W. Gardner (1912–2002) You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy. Max Ehrmann (1872-1945), Desiderata (c. 1920s)

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azbcethananderson

We are all made differently(God screws us over). Our success (money, love, relationship) all comes down to luck. Some people say they work hard to make money and success. They are lying. F. UC. K them

Don Know

don't worry, there are about seven billion people on earth that ave all gone through it or will do, just live your life

Duderick GB

First, f*ck your peers. They can be happy in their respective own little worlds. You need to focus on you, specifically what you feel you will enjoy doing until the day you die (A great sign that you've chosen the right career is that you don't consider it "work"). If music not only floats your boat, but sends you to the moon, then music it is. Remember, money is useless if you work a shitty job to get it, and money is meaningless if you do something you enjoy. If you enjoy what you do, you're motivated to do it and tend to do it very well. If you're a good musician, BOOM there's your accomplishment. You also stand a good chance of meeting more people with things in common if you follow your musical inclination. Now, you also seem to have issues with understanding yourself, for which I recommend going to http://personalitycafe.com/ and taking the personality test, which is based on the myers-briggs test (a real diagnostic test, not some spam B.S.). You'll get a detailed description something like this: http://typelogic.com/intj.html Personalitycafe is also a forum where you can meet others with the same or complimentary personality traits, if you're so inclined to do so. Then, a few semi-related things...1. Women love musicians. It may take you awhile to find "the one", but odds are you'll get laid in the process. 2. Look into Asperger's syndrome. It's a mild form of autism that affects ones social abilities. Don't base anything important on an online or self diagnosis, just understand that it's a possibility.

The Habitat Dr.

Hey I feel the same way as you. Don't feel bad about yourself am 21 and still in community college :(. I feel like am years behind of my peers in terms of knowledge and just about every other skills. My cousins go to Ivy league and friends are in University while I dwell in community college, I don't do well on anything and just leeching off my parent. Music is my passion too but the expectation of others on me is too great that I can't focus on things I want to do. And I feel like I can't waste my time on other things other than gaining knowledge because I feel like I know so little that no one would hire me in a job even if I get a bachelor in a University. Sorry for the negative talk. I hope you can your answer soon if you ever do let me know. Good luck

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