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How to predict romantic attraction?

Isn't the core of the attraction between a man and a woman ultimately sexual?

  • Isn't it all about sex? I mean you might deny it - we may not always be thinking about boinking someone of the opposite sex we are attracted to - but..... isn't it the ultimate thing? What do you want from someone you're attracted to? What is your objective? Do you just want to keep talking to them?....Do you just want to keep hanging out with them?.... Do you want them to like you? Do you want to keep going out on dates? Do you want to marry them? and then what? How would you describe your attraction to someone of the opposite sex? Isn't wanting to engage in sexual intercourse the core of your attraction? Gays and lesbians can answer too relating to their attraction to someone of the same sex Can you distinguish between attraction and sexual attraction? How does "Love" fit into all this? ------------ P.S. I hope my haters or Jomama(Veritas) will not find this question to be a blow on feminism and report it now

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    No, it isn't always a sexual attraction. When I first met my husband I felt attracted to him, but not in that burning lusty I-want-you-NOW way. I thought he was handsome but I was also very attracted to his personality. He's a lot of fun and he's great to talk to and just spend time with. As I got to know him better, that burning lusty feeling grew, as it is supposed to. But that other attraction - being attracted to his personality and wanting to just be with him - never went away and also got stronger. I don't know if I'd say that the physical attraction is the core of my attraction to him, or his to me. It's part of it but not all of it. We are very attracted to each other physically but it goes beyond the physical too. If we were never able to be intimate with one another again, I'd still be attracted to him and I'd still long to just be with him and share our lives together.

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I dunno. My girlfriends hot, but i'm still not getting any, and i'd still be with her if if i knew i wasn't gonna get any within the forseeable future.

Number Johnny 4

LOL...you're all man baby. Yes...I agree that coming from the male perspective, what you say is absolutely true...and this applies to some females as well. Though...IMHO...I feel that females ulterior motive is more along the lines of settling down and nesting with that man. (perhaps not so much with the feminist women, but average women for sure). Personally...yes...sex is the ultimate destination.

Sugar Baybee

The all-wise and all-knowing feminists have informed us that "real" men desire habitually confrontational women who "challenge" us, and men are less interested in women who like to please us and make our lives more enjoyable. I'm so confused.

ksoileau

Well love is a way of tricking us into reproducing and looking after the child, that doesn't mean you can'e enjoy it :)

Rawr

not the initial attraction...my husband has wonderful intellect and morals. but yea sexual Attraction came right after

katrissa2000

No, not reporting the question. It's a valid one for once. Thank you for asking a good quality question that doesn't bash feminism or any other "ism".... I think for many people, both male and female, sex is a driving factor. Only a fool would say otherwise. An emotionally mature person can distinguish between attraction and sexual attraction, absolutely. The key here is choosing to make that distinction...and that requires self-control. Something too many people, both male and female, seem to lack nowadays.

xoxoxo

You're taking ONE aspect of the relationship, and calling it "ultimate" -- for no good reason. Often, sexual attraction is the result of attraction of minds, for instance. Why is the result the ULTIMATE aspect? Uh, yes, I want to keep talking to them, and hanging out with them -- that's what attracts me. Sex can also be fun. That doesn't make sex more utlimate than all the other stuff.

tehabwa

women - love at first sight men - lust at first sight to johnny. you have a point because men dont look for sex inrelationships generally. men want sex with different women outside of relationships. its normal.

x

You said boinking. giggle, giggle :)

IRIS

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