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Is it RAPE or not? I talked to the police and went to the hospital after, but I'm not sure how to think of it

  • Is this rape or just a misunderstanding of signals? One night I was at home alone talking online and having some drinks. I got too drunk without intending to (because my anti-depressants make the effects of alcohol stronger) and, while blacked out, I drove to CVS for cigarettes (really stupid but I had no idea what I was doing). I parked and then I started to throw up out the window. A guy came by the car and asked if I was okay. I don't know if I let him into the car or he came in. He started kissing me and I said no no no stop sort of writhing around and freaking and he asked what was wrong. I didn't say anything and he had sex with me. I remember I was moaning and everything, and at the time I had no thoughts going on in my head. I blacked out for most of it. I had been horny lately and maybe I felt like I wanted it. When he was about to enter me, I asked if he had a condom b/c it was my first drunk instinct to say that. Does this mean I wanted it to happen? Rape or not? Be honest

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    Definitely rape. You said no. Asking someone to wear a condom does NOT mean that you gave consent to have sex with him. Also, you were under the influence of substances, which calls into question whether you could actually have given consent at all. There is no way some man thinks a sick, vomiting woman who has said no (or even one who hasn't) wants to have sex with him, a man she doesn't even know. Please seek out counseling to help you get through your conflicting feelings, and to discuss a plan for how to keep yourself from being in such a vulnerable position (blacked out, driving, etc.) again.

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You asked a potential rapist if he had a condom, well guess you could always tell the judge there was nothing you could do to stop it so you didn't want to catch anything...by the way there is a CVS right down the road from my house next time you decide to drive for smokes

Demun

If you say no, it's rape.

LisaT

sounds awfull, and, yeah,I would call it rape. You said you didn't want him. you said no, no etc.

hot_flamenco_girl8

Yes this was rape. If its unwelcomed its rape. And you being drunk means he took advantage of a situation. Your question is very contradicting though because you say that you felt you wanted it. If you are still having problems coping with this issue see a counselor.

Tias

a NO is a No even if u r drunk or messed up.nobody has the right to take advantage of u when u r not in a position to protest. Pls dont put ur self in such a position again. take care good luck

mrs-iyer

i think accidental sex in the parking lot of a cvs counts as rape. otherwise, it's just surprise sex.

the answer monster

Simply, If you didn't want it then it was rape. It deesn't matter if you had been feeling frisky. You were under the influence and he took advantage of that. It is rape.

Shelley

Rape, because you weren't in "your right mind" so to speak.

scharfie528

It's not rape if he stopped when you asked him to stop. If he asked (to have sex), and you didn't protest, i don't think it can be proven to be a rape. But if there was any force or protest from you during sex (and he continued), it can be called rape, surely. If the guy wasn't drugged too, he isn't in the clear at all. He very easily could and should have seen you weren't able to make any good decisions. But i doubt if a judge or jury would call it rape. If there's any doubt, he can't be convicted for that. Because of your memory loss, there probably will be at least SOME doubt (you then probably can't prove the guy wasn't drugged too). It's a hard lesson: NEVER start with alcohol and other drugs. Also not just to 'test it' or 'just in small amounts'. Alcohol is definitely a hard drug. Drugs are just way to addictive. After the very first time you can be hooked for life. Next to the rape: you should be judged for the drinking and driving thing. AA is not just a option, you NEED to go to the AA.

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