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How often should you say "I love you"?

  • My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now...I love him and he tells me he loves me. The problem is, he only says "I love you" maybe once a month. I used to tell him I love him often, and he does say it back but he hardly ever says it to me first, but I stopped saying it so often because it was discouraging how less often he said it. I've confronted him about it and he says he thinks if we say it "too much" it loses its meaning. He seems to think that people who say it to each other every day only say it because they feel like they have to, and that he only wants to say it when he feels it (which apparently is only once a month?). It makes me a little sad because it lights up my heart whenever he says "I love you," and I wish I could get that more than once in a while. What should I do? How often should two people say I love you?

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    He has a point, about it losing its meaning if you say it too often. But it also loses it's meaning if you don't say it often enough. Maybe instead of only once per month, maybe try to get him to say it only four times a month (once a week). You start up with that first, for a while.... And see if he catches on.

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Don't worry it's a male thing. We don't think about telling our partners we love them even though we do. It just doesn't come naturally to us where with women it does.

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I barely say it.

Kris Likkor

I say it to my bf all the time, at the end of an email, when we talk we'll both randomly say it,sometimes even at the same time. You just say it, but you have to say it when you mean it. not like every second but you know not to much but just enough, If its bugging you,you should talk to him about it, cuz one a month is wayyy to little, I say it every day and its amazing and its special every time. Trust me once a month is not enough. talk to him.

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This is about your controlling him. I suggest that if you are not getting what you need in the form of verbal expression of the words ' I love you' that you move on from him. Perhaps there are other things you do not like about him. Now is the time to examine that and notice red flags. Not later when you have children. If you are sad now because of this, I guarantee there will be other things he does that you do not approve of. When you have to ask for things ( or in this case words) they are not heartfelt. To rephrase, if you do not respect the way he is, move on.

barthebear

You should say it when you feel it and mean it. I agree that saying it when you do not feel it is not the right thing to do. And some people may have a hard time saying it. I guess I am lucky, I hear it from my girl about everyday, and she hears it from me just as often. Sometimes she says it first and sometimes I do. It is not a contest about who says it first or how often, it is just an expression that shows how you feel about someone. Therefore, if it is an honest expression and you are not trying to gain some leverage, saying it daily to your significant other is not too often.

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