What do you do if a guest comes to your graduation party without a gift?

1. For a college graduate you seem pretty full of yourself about this "Grand" party being thrown in your honor. Ah well, you must be too spoiled to know any better. 2. With the exception of classmates, who might have many graduation parties to go to, I think most people would come to your party with a gift, and I dare say they might go the easy route and give some money. The graduates on my list are getting a happy Benjamin and a nice card. 3. If you really have to ask your question, I think you should call off the party. You really think there is a way to approach someone and say, "Where's my gift?" without being unspeakably rude? There isn't. 4. Even if you thought you found a diplomatic way to do so, imagine your horror at finding out that you were about to receive a large check in the mail, that the keys to a new car were in her pocketbook, or that a helicopter was waiting to whisk you off on an amazing tour of something in the morning. 5. If your parents are well off and in the habit of throwing "grand" parties, it's not the first time they've been used for the free food and drink they provide, and they're probably not as uncomfortable with it as you are. It's part of having an active social life that sometimes you entertain a buffoon or two. 6. Have you shown this question to your mother? I'd have thought she'd have raised you with better manners and more dignity. I live in an only partly finished industrial building with my husband and three children, and my teenagers are more diplomatic, understanding, grateful and graceful than you. Money, especially your parents' money, doesn't make you better. And if your parents have any class, they're not throwing this GRAND fete to collect gifts from their friends and family.

graduation from kindergarten? perhaps that would be the time to bring a toy... from HS... time to grow up and stop being a spoiled little brat. edit note: so sorry, I thought you wrote "university" by mistake so I gave you the benefit of the doubt and wrote HS... but from you additions I guess I was right in the first place... I hope you are very happy going on to First Grade with the big kids. I would also expect better writing from a "university" graduate

What a spoilt brat you must be. Your parents money and gifts will only get you so far in life. After that you will be on your own and will be very happy if anyone cares enough about you to visit you. You obviously have very little to worry about if not receiving a gift is your biggest worry. Enjoy your party.

you seem like a girl that would be on the "sweet 16's" show on mtv... anyways, be glad they are going to celebrate your achievement. I've been to a few graduation parties (including my own) and did not expect anyone to give gifts.

im sorry im alot different than you i would be glad that they came what if no one showed up to the party then your parents money would be wasted......not everyone can afford to buy gifts...

Your parents know the money they are spending. That should not be an issue to you. Although there are people out there who can free-load, if the majority of the people attending are friends and family you should take into consideration that they are there to support you (even sans gift). But most people know to bring a gift. When it comes to etiquette, be worried that you don't come off as a present piggy. You can control how you behave so refrain from acting like a snob.

Nothing. Like you said, you don't care only about gifts or material things; you invited people so they could celebrate with you. You are not charging admission in the form of gifts. It is extremely rude and shows very poor breeding to assume you're getting a present. So you don't notice who gave you a present and who didn't.

I don't think I'd even notice if anyone came empty-handed; indeed, I'd be puzzled if I received gifts. Times seem to have changed -- I would buy someone a "Congratulations" card when they graduated from university but I don't see it particularly as an occasion to get them a gift as well. The fact that you have graduated should be reward enough, I feel. You are inviting your guests for the pleasure of their company, to help you celebrate your splendid achievement, not in order that you receive presents. If the party was to be held at your parents' home, then modest gifts of flowers, chocolates and bottles of wine would be in order, but these are not appropriate when the venue is a restaurant.

First of all, congratulations on your graduation. Although you will be graduating with a lot of knowledge about literature, science and history, it appears you have a lot to learn about understanding others. Not everyone in today's economy can afford to buy gifts. Some are worried that they might lose their jobs. Other have worries about paying the next mortgage. Sure, I might perhaps decline an invitation to go to a graduation party because I was unable to bring a gift, others might just want to be there to congratulate you and celebrate the big event. Do not look on them as "free loaders". How would you like to receive an invitation from a friend that said "Come to my open house but only if you bring a gift." Hmmm.. Sounds a bit rude, huh? What about, "You gave me a cheap gift so you can sit at that rickety table in the corner. You also will not be allowed to have any dessert. You would have been able to have it if you brought me a better gift.". Your parents are paying for the event. Celebrate but do not get emotionally involved in hauling in the loot. You seem like an intelligent person. Try to be more understanding and compassionate. It will serve you well from now on.