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She corrected my grammar!?!?

  • Several friends and I do lunch weekly, and have been doing so for about 3 years. Recently, one of them brought his girlfriend along. We were all talking and I said something was "badly worded" and she corrected my grammar! I, and most of the other people at the table, had only known this girl for about 20 minutes and she felt it appropriate to correct my grammar!?! Now, I don't want to go to lunch with my friends when she is there. I'm paranoid that I will word something POORLY and she will do it again. I really don't want to avoid lunch with my friends. I think I need to mention that everyone at the table, except her, have or are at least working on Masters degrees, so we aren't stupid. Maybe she was only trying to impress us, but it came off as rude and inappropriate. How do I handle this in the future, without changing my weekly tradition?

  • Answer:

    When I was in school, I was taught that spoken conversations are informal and therefore we all can be a little forgiving when it comes to proper grammar while anything written was considered formal. So anything written, where people can actually SEE the grammatical errors especially in a professional environment, should use correct spelling, grammar and punctuation. So speak however you like because if we all had to think about grammar in our heads before we open our mouths, then there will probably be a lot of silences in a conversation. (Also, correcting someone was rude on her part.)

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Bytch slap her right across the floor and then drag her into the ladies room and flush her head down the toilet. It works every time!

drampor

What's such a big deal about getting an opportunity to learn something? Besides, it's just some chick. Ignore her if it's that big of a deal. I wouldn't think twice about it.

Phoenix, Wise Guru

just smile pleasently at her and keep talking.

dixiegirl687

i find that i hate most of my friend's girlfriends. wait until she does it again and then tell her that you aren't being evaluated for your performance at the lunch table and while you and your friends are out, you let down your hair and sometimes ::gasp!:: ignore the rules of grammar. don't let her make you feel bad, she was probably already compensating for what a loser she is by trying to make you look stupid. it's not ok to verbally correct someone's grammar in a crowd unless they are under 10 years old. it's belittling and crude.

Caro M

Don't let her stop you from getting together with your friends. Ignore her is probably the better way to handle it. And I mean truly ignore her "grammar" comments. A lot of times when people feel the need to correct others, it's only because they feel inferior. So, don't let it bother you. Remember, she's the newcomer, so hang in there.

Tara

Mention it to her boyfriend and tell him it was unappreciated. Let him deal with her.

Insurance Biz CT

If she does it again just flat out tell her that it is MUCH worse to correct someone's grammar than to actually say something wrong. No one uses correct grammar 100% of the time.

Ryan's mom

Simple. Ask "I'm sorry. Do I get a 'Gold Star' if I use perfect grammar in your presence?" Everyone else will get a chuckle out of it, and she'll get the point.

Tough Love

Just ignore her without being rude. She probably didn't mean anything by it. Language operates on many levels depending on the setting and 'bad grammar' is sometimes the result of speakers just being relaxed when in good company. Eventually she will get it.

mxn

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