How can i ask my guest to leave the house as its almost 2 months since he's staying? he says he has no money

to get him to leave you just got to be straight forward with him and tell him your free stay here is up.... time to pack your sh*t and hit the road...lol naw but really if it is making you miserable then you need to tell him he has got to go. who cares if he feels bad what about your feeling... i am sure you work hard to get what you have now he needs to do the same you are not his parents nor is he your responsibility, it might make you feel bad to tell cause sure it will hurt his feeling but after he moves out you wont feel bad you will actually feel relief trust me i know from two personal experiences... you will feel a relief off your shoulder be straight forward dont hold nothing back

if that's a trouble for you, than tell your husband that you want him out now

Goodness. Tell your husband how you feel and tell him that you NEED your privacy and that his cousin or brother has overstayed his welcome. He can go to his parents house or to another relative's home and not only be a burden to you and your husband.

Tough spot. I don't envy you. But I would try to do this: set a deadline. Tell him, in no uncertain terms, that he has until such-and-such a date to vacate your home. Whatever that date is, is up to you -- a week from now, two weeks, a month, whatever you decide. You're the boss. By doing this, you're giving him a heads-up, and setting a goal for him to reach as far as getting his life together to the point that he can leave. It may at first seem like an un-Christian thing to do, but it's not. It's not "a Christian thing to do" to enable what he's doing -- which is what you'll be doing if you continue to let him stay in your house for an indefinite amount of time. I don't know you or him, obviously, but I get the sense that this situation has gotten to the point where he is taking advantage of your goodwill and charity. Time to draw a line in the sand, and stick to it. Good luck.

I'd personally probably start by kind of joking about it, i.e. jokingly refer to him as your "tenant" or something like that. A little white lie wouldn't hurt either, i.e. "we have some friends coming in from out-of-town and they really do need a place to stay for the weekend..." If that doesn't work, a very brief sit-down chat is probably in order. "Mark/Joe/Tom/whatever-his-name-is, we really like you a lot & enjoy having you around, and we know you've fallen on some hard times, so we're glad to help you out if possible. But you've been here 8 weeks now, and we were under the impression that when you first came here that this was going to be more of a short-term arrangement for you." Explain to him that it's not JUST a privacy thing, but that having him in the household makes your bills increase--you pay more for electricity & water because there's a 3rd adult showering, groceries are expensive, etc. Give him a deadline; i.e. "We really don't mind shorter visits, but considering the fact that we've had a 30% increase in our energy bills and grocery bills...we're really trying to save up for a family vacation. If you're going stay here, you need to start chipping in your fair share on household expenses, and since you're not working all day and we both have full-time jobs, you also need to start taking care of all of the household chores." That should be a serious wake-up call. If he balks or starts to complain, show him the door. Either way though, put a no-buts-about-it timeframe on how much longer he's allowed to stay. I personally don't think you're being rude at all. HE is the one being a rude houseguest & overstaying his limit. I would've probably kicked out someone after 2 WEEKS unless they were a REALLY good friend or had explained the situation and we'd agreed up-front that this was more of a long-term deal, in which case I would expect/demand some sort of payment (even if just household chores such as keeping the house neat, helping cook & wash dishes, free babysitting, etc)

Get a job, good luck with your life, and please don't let the door hit you in the butt.

Speak to your husband in no uncertain terms. Let him know how you feel and that he needs to be considerate of your feelings. Any woman would feel uncomfortable with an extended guest in her house-especially a man. Explain this to him and let him tell his relative to accept a loan from some other relatives. Both of you have done more than your part 'to help him out'. It's time for the other members of his family to help him as well. This is affecting you negatively and you deserve consideration as well. You have been very generous to have him stay two months in your house. Enough is enough. This is very unfair to you.

Tell him to get a job and leave you alone. Even if working in a fast food restaraunt is the only option. He is walking all over you.

Go to a hotel untill he moves out, rent a weekly kitchenette and tell your husband if he needs you you'll be there!