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Fiance always on the phone- I'm hating technology- anyone in the same boat?

• Alright. When I first got on the dating scene people didn't really have phones and when they did it was just for making phone calls. I never had this problem. But now- for the past 4 years and the giant boom of the "smart phone" I have been with the same guy. Now we are going to get married in a few month but the only big issue I have with him is the phone. Let me give you an idea of today. He met me at my place. I was taking a shower and when I got out he was he was sitting there on his phone of course (it's a Droid X). Did not bug me too much- I mean I was just in the shower. Then I was doing my hair and instead of talking to me or sitting in the same room he went into the other room to sit and do his phone. . . . So I moved my stuff in there and sat by him and did my hair- hoping to get some smalltalk in. He was not too interested. Just mostly kept going back to the phone every other second. We were riding up the road to go to the store- he was on his phone on and off doing things. When we go to the store he was on his phone walking around once in a while. We went to look at Wedding stuff and he had the phone out the whole time. We went into Victoria's Secret (I was getting gifts for a friend and myself because of a sale they had) and he was on the phone. I would catch peeps of what he was doing. It was Facebook and Ebay and stuff like that. . . . . Later on we decide to go back to his parents place. We were all in the living room together- me him and his two nieces. I was playing with the kids and he sat there on his phone. Don't get me wrong. There are times he's not on it and he does pay me attention or hold my hand. But really I would prefer that unless it's an emergency, checking the time real fast, someone is texting or calling him and he has to answer, or if lets say we want to know the answer to something and we can just google it on his phone I'd rather he not even touch it the thing. When I complain about it his excuse it "Well I'm paying $80 a month for his phone- I'm going to use it and I'm going to get my moneys worth out of it" . . . . . . I feel like saying "who's making you?" . . .. I have the cheapest of cheap phones- nothing fancy. Calls, takes pictures, and texts- nothing else. Costs $30 a month. I'm worried though. Every time we go into a store (even if it's the same day different store) and there is a I-Phone there he HAS to pick it up and play with it. I tell him that he already has a i-pad and his Droid X is pretty much the same as the other. He can store music and movies and go online and do different things. Sure it's not the brand and it doesnt have all the "apps" but Apps just means more time for him to be on his phone. . . . . he's set on getting it. . . . The most expensive biggest gig one too of course. I guess I'm just jealous of the phone. Not jealous of having it- not saying I want one. I mean sure they are probably pretty cool. I mean you can be anywhere and you can look up something in a pinch if you need to. But I don't like the idea of cutting off communication with real people. If I were sitting in a waiting room for example I'd much rather be carrying on a conversation with the person next to me than on my little computer device. I know he loves me. . . . . I just wish he would put the phone away and not take it out to constantly check Facebook and all of his stuff all the time. I really don't like it. And when I say anything he gets really defensive and brings up the whole "I'm paying for it I'm gunna use it" excuse. . . . . . Anyone else in a similar boat? Any advice? I used to think technology was cool before I met him, I though all the little gadgets were fancy but unattainable to me because of the price too. But now here he is with this little gadget that has made me hate phones. I've vowed to never get a phone with internet or fancy anything until the day comes that they force you to get it. But hopefully they'll offer cheapo phones for a long time. Please kind answers only!! ***I have a Nintendo DS and since my cell phone is boring with just texts and calling and photos, I thought of just taking it for 1 day everywhere I go with him- just constantly staying on it and then when he asks about it I'd tell him this is how you make me feel when you are on your phone all the time. . . . Probably would just make him mad though. . ..

• Answer:

  You are right this goes deeper than the phone. This fellow has a really bad addiction problem. You will not be able to break it. If you want to break it, you need counselling. Both of you should go. I would put off the wedding until you decide that the problem is fixed - for good, not just for now. When my G/F comes out of the shower, I am paying attention. She has my FULL attention. If he is on his phone, and does not put it down, that is a bad omen.