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I want to study abroad with my boyfriend, but we go to different universities? Please help!?

  • i'm 19, and my boyfriend is 26. He is a second time grad student at a different university though. I go to a Cal. State Uni. but he goes to a University of California. I studied abroad when I was 15-16 in Chile, but now I want to go to somewhere in Europe or Asia (I REALLY want to go to Japan or South Korea!!!) My boyfriend said that he would apply too, and if he gets some scholarships then he will go with me. I know he is only doing it so I wouldn't go alone though. If I get a scholarship and he doesn't, then I said I wouldn't go though...I wish he would just pay a couple thousand dollars and not be so cheap if that happens >_> I got full-paid scholarships last time, and even if I don't get as much this time, I think the money is worth the experience...but my boyfriend doesn't feel that way.*sigh* I should mention that he immigrated here from China when he was 15... Right now we live together, and we've been dating for over 1.5 yrs. I want us to end up in the same city together, but don't know how to go about this. Should I apply us both to Universities with high acceptance rates as our first choice (ex. South Korea) and then places like Japan as 2nd, and Europe as 3rd since it might be more difficult for us to end up together there? Please give me some advice! Keep in mind that I studied abroad before, but I am very serious about my relationship and love my boyfriend (I usually get bored of people quickly, but not him!) so I think this would be an awesome opportunity to always remember together! :D Any advice on making this happen would be great! I'm going to give it a go no matter what, so please don't tell me it isn't possible...just ways to increase the odds (even if they are small). Thank you so much and sorry this is kind of ranty xD Im tired lol Take care and thanks again!!

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    OK--settle down----YOU worry about your own education and career---he will worry about his. he doesn't need you with him and YOU do not need him. You want all the grown stuff but you aren't ready. You love him now?? Guess what---you may not love him in 6 months--then what?? He may not even really want anything to do with you until school is over--- This is NOT a good idea. This is a formula for disaster!! You cannot increase the odds of anything--EXCEPT failure. YOU my friend are wasting valuable time. I cannot agree with you on anything about this!! You two are waaaaay too young for this much closeness during the serious school years.

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You should try but God knows well than u

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The best piece of advice I can give you is to be realistic. Studying abroad is a great experience (I did so as well when I was in college) but it can also be difficult to find a program that would 1) Accept the both of you and 2) Find schools with prgrams for both of your degrees. I'm also not sure how your boyfriend (as a Masters degree student) would be able to incorporate a study abroad into his school schedule. That being said, you should also take into consideration that he (as a Chinese national) might have more problems trying to get accepted into a study abroad in some other countries (unless he has a U.S. passport) so try to focus on countries where this wouldn't pose a problem. Also try working together with him to find scholarships for both of you--I wouldn't consider most people cheap because they can't "just pay a couple thousand dollars" because that is a lot of money to a lot of people--especially for students. He may receive a stipedend for his degree that he won't receive if he leaves the country so try to find out through his department what would be acceptable. It is likely that it will be more difficult for him to leave than you, so start by speaking with his advisor regarding the options. And lastly, while I agree that it might be a great experience for you both to do this together, take in mind that you might also enjoy the chance to study abroad alone as well (you meet lots of new people and have experiences that you might not have if you were together). Depending on how long you're planning to be gone for (1 semester? 2?) I wouldn't immediately refuse an experience just because he can't come-- a 6 month break might make your relationship even stronger once you return!

Leigh

My son went to study abroad in Shanghai a few years ago, and he was a student of UCLA. The dormitory was new but the overall it was not that rosy. Master degree program, unlike undergraduate program, seldom has exchange student, that is,program of studying abroad in it. So you and your friend may study separately. The best solution may come from advisers in studying abroad office.

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