What is a good job for a college freshmen?

Advice for a freshmen college student?

• I'm currently a freshmen in college and to get this out of the way, yes I have met people. I have a job, I go to the gym, I say hi to people and I do have a few friends. However the problem is I feel so alone here. I've been here for a few months but I still feel like it's the start of the school year and I am still in that awkward, do you want to be my friend stage. I try I really try but the friends I do have seem to think I have a wall up and to be totally honest I know I do. It just I'm so afraid to be hurt that I tend to socially cripple myself. I just don't know how to stop. It makes me feel naked to put myself out there without a plan or with out my wall to hide behind. I mean it makes things so much easy when you're sitting in the resident dining hall all on your own and telling yourself that it's okay and that you don't need anyone than to actually acknowledge the fact that you would like someone with you. The thing is I don't want a group of friends I'm fine with just having one or two good ones I know I can depend on. Or a boyfriend. I've been in a relationship before but we didn't click romantically and we are now best friends but none of my best/good friends are with me at my school so I now need to fend for myself and I'm scared. It also doesn't help that I feel like many people have a stigma about being friends with a black person. I'm either not "black" enough because I speak English properly or too "black" because I have darker skinned. It grates on my nerves because the last time I looked in the mirror I saw a human being not a black girl or an oreo or whatever else I've been called. It's just hard having all your future friendships/relationships stiffened because you're either too much of something or too little of something else. I'm a nice person, I love relaxing and hanging at home rather than partying, and I love getting to know people. Unluckily no one seems interested in finding that out. So what should I do. To some of the answerers that will probably be jerks I have an accurate self image I know that I am neither drop dead gorgeous nor hideous. I think I'm an average girl with my on and off days.

• Answer:

  Just be YOU, don't worry about people and what they think, focus on your studies. You're in college to learn and get your degree not to be popular. Find a group of friends you fit who share your interests and surround yourself around positive people. Don't try to please others or live up to beauty standards or stereotypes.