Black Women with Natural Hair: How do you deal?

Black guys have issues, like they are skin tone focused....you see them with overweight white women, they never seem to get the thin higher class ones, they are also too focused on our hair. I like black guys as friends, but not as lovers they hurt too much! My real hair though is is half way to my back...you can have the same if you know what your doing. Yes other races of men don't have issues about us. They are more nicer and smart. My friend is white and she is very pretty, but fat. She has had many black guys want her, but I told her they want her because she is pale plus they talk slang and that means no future with sagging pants. So I hope she lose weight and dates her race.

My hair is natural but that's never happened to me. It's disgusting how others would have such ignorant assumptions about a person with afro hair. It's just shows how far we still have to go. FYI: Not all black girls with long, straight hair relax it. Some are actually naturally like that.

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that, I first started wearing my hair naturally last year around this time. I was a sophomore, and I remember initially, people wanted to touch it a lot and asked my what was I thinking and why would I do something like that; and "now everyone knows that you're light skinned with some real nappy hair" But, as time wore on, it was no longer exciting and people just kinda leave me alone, I get compliments on what I do with my hair now, since there are just so many options. But as far as guys go, the raggedy boys at my school who I didn't want around me, stopped talking to me, and the more real guys started talking to me, because I started carrying myself differently.

Yeah I've experienced that mostly from other black women not so much black men. I do wear weaves but most of the time they look very similar to my natural hair type. How do I deal with it? I ignore them and walk with my head up, eventually they learn to respect you once they realize that you don't care what they think. More black women have to go natural (not all of them) because right now so many relax their hair. Natural hair has become uncommon when it should be the norm.

yay!natural sisters!lol I have been natural since the end of the 7th grade which was 2.5 years ago.When I started transitioning at the begining of the 8th grade,my friends were like,why are you doing that to your hair,and you need a perm(it's not even a perm..its called a relaxer lol.)and I didn't pay it any mind at all.I didn't care because my natural hair is what I am happy with,I love the thickness,I love the patterns,I love the texture,I love the color,I love being natural,and I love me.That's what you have to realize honey,when you go natural as a black woman,you have to be mentally and spiritually ready to take on the things that come a long with being natural.You can't let what people say get you down,at all and you have to be happy for you.I f a guy doesn't like you because of your hair,then wow that's some really retarded stuff :|on the real!loL!I hear that a lot to ,you have good hair,you'd be prettier with straight hair,but i dont hear the other ones..but someone did say I needed a hot comb when we were in the auditorium watching a play ,and I took that as a compliment because that my fro is getting bigger loL!!if you need more help or a friend you can message me or you can go on this site,they helped me :) http://www.nappturality.com/forum/

fudge em

I wish fros were more accepted. I would like to grow one if it were big enough. My hair looks like it does in my avy. I only get "Is it real?" and "Can I touch your hair." from well meaning, but clueless whites. They don't know those are the two questions you never ask a black girl. I'm thankful that I'm not around idiots like you are. I've never been asked those questions, thank God. Other races simply have no idea what we go through with our hair, and you think the blacks would know better. We're all in the same boat. I've learned that living life as a black girl causes you to develop the patience of a saint. That's the only way we can deal. (Though, I feel sorry for the next person who asks me if my hair is real)

First of all, don't let ANYONE keep you from feeling good about you! I have never had the negative comments that you've had. *hugs* those comments only mean that there's something wrong with THEM for the past 5 years, I've had locs/dreds LOVING my natural hair

Where i live, about 90% of black woman have natural hair- and no-one bats an eyelid. If only ever heard of it being a problem on this bloody site. I know i'm not lack, but i'm just adding in something.