A lot of people are judgmental. Like TOO judgmental. You are scared to say things in front of them because of what they might think of you. Open minded, down to earth, kind people are the ones that are easy to talk to. Conversations flow through them because instead of judging your every move, they are taking in what you say, giving you their own experiences.

Also I think some people give really bad advice and sometimes you just don’t want to hear what they have to say so you keep things simple and minimal. Some people hate conversation as well. I guess the answer is there are just so many different people out there that react to conversation so differently. I just personally find that the more open minded non-judgmental type are easy to talk to. People who smile when they talk to you and really stay engaged in the conversation. We all have conversations with those type of people who just don’t want to be there and you both know it.

People who grew up in big cities are accustomed to folks approaching them who want something from them and forcing conversation on them. Could be salespeople, beggars, thieves, rapists, crazies. So approaching a stranger and assuming they want to talk to you can be overbearing or signal red flags to some.

Also, some people who are going through trauma, deeper PTSD, and/or some sort of life crises are not going to reciprocate this openminded behavior. Individual humans are wired differently and this must also be taken into consideration before making assumptions. Some people simply just don’t talk much besides your everyday “hello”, “good morning” and “good evening”. These people also shouldn’t be judged.

These things are important to remember when wondering why some people never open up. It’s not so cut and dry, and you never know what’s going on in somebody’s mind.

Now, let’s answer your question.

The people who unnecessarily give the cold shoulder again and again, time after time, to polite conversation without an ounce of respect have only what they consider to be problems smoldering within their mind.

These problems usually focus on perceived slights from those close to them, because why should they be at fault for anything? Their egos generally go completely unchecked throughout life, and they usually grew up with an enabler of this behavior.

They don’t hold empathy for anyone beyond themselves and they are narcissistic towards those closest to them. I like to call them empathy hoarders, amongst other things. They are empathetic black holes because empathy cannot escape their grasp. That’s why they pretend you don’t exist, and you’re fortunate that you’ll never get to know them.

The biggest problem related to them that exists outside of their own heads is that they have no idea how much of an asshole they truly are. Within their own minds, they are totally innocent of all wrongdoing.

The problems smoldering within their head are directly related to other people’s reactions to their narcissistic behavior. Nobody in the world can tell them that they’re trapped living within an emotional negative feedback loop.

You may ask, what is an emotional negative feedback loop? Think of it like Homeostasis, except for the mind of a narcissist.

Negative Feedback Loops in Cell Biology have to do with Homeostasis: the biological processes that living organisms use to maintain stability within their own bodies to survive. They are reactive physical functions. For example, your body starts sweating when it gets hot, but hits the brakes and stops sweating when it cools down enough. Or, your body starts breathing heavier as you hike up a mountain, but hits the brakes and slows its breathing once it catches up on oxygen levels at the top.

When someone is trapped inside of a mental or emotional negative feedback loop, they only perform reactive mental and emotional functions to protect their own egos; their own hubris. They hit the brakes when empathy starts spreading outside their personal boundaries, sucking it all back in to their own egos, and therefore don’t have an ounce of empathy for others. You could also say that they are empathetic parasites.

They believe they are constantly right and anyone who says otherwise is a total douchebag. You are so insignificant to them that you might as well disappear right in front of them. And that’s exactly what they do to you in their mind when you ask them how their day was for the 19th afternoon in a row.

But that’s OK!

One thing I’ve realized when it comes to these types of people is, stay as far away from them as possible. They have the right as human beings to live their own lives and think their own thoughts, and we should all hope they don’t ruin too many young humans in the process. Narcissism is an emotional disease, and it can be contagious. Fortunately, it can be cured if treated in its early stages.

Maybe, just maybe, somebody will get through to some of them to the point that their treasure trove of hoarded empathy for themselves breaks open and they start treating people with more respect. We can at least hope.

Sometimes you just click with some people.

There are some people that even after a short time of meeting them, you feel comfortable around and can talk to them about anything. You know those times when you talk to a person for hours and not feel tired at all as if you only talked for some few minutes.

Usually those kind of people tend to be more open minded than others; they tend to listen to what you have to say and not judge you. Also, they might be the kind of people that you relate to and the more you can relate to a person the more you can be yourself around them and talk to them freely.

Moreover, people feel more comfortable talking to someone who is willing to listen to them. A successful conversation is a two-way street.

On the other side, there are some people who are very close-minded that tend to stick to one set of ideas and never want to change them or listen to new ones. You don’t want to keep the conversation going between you and someone who is judging every word you say.

People come with different characters and personnalities, it’s like a puzzle; some people click well with you while others don’t.

It’s really quite simple. As social creatures we are hard wired to sense when someone else is interested in our well-being (including what we’re thinking). I have been by my nature a social scientist most of my life. I can blend with the locals very quickly by observing behavior. I know how to be the center of someone’s attention as well as how to blend into the background and become invisible. How people respond to me strongly correlates to how much attention I show to them and their lives. Throw in a compliment or two and you’re golden.

I’m not as callus as I might sound. I’m genuinely interested in people. It has been my experience that people sense that and respond.

• Take off your clothes!
• If you are a black person talking to a white person, try to convince the white person to say the “N” word.
• If you are white talking to a black person, talk about how your white guilt is holding you down.
• Bring up how a wall needs to be built around California and Canada.
• How humans are born evil, talking to a pregnant couple.
• Talk about having a meth habit, and all you do is masturbate, so you have to get home soon.
• Ask why don't people shut up and let me talk.
• Ask were your parents ugly.
• Tell them about your alien abduction.
• When talking to Hispanics, talk pro-deportation.
• Gossip about the person's spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend.
• Ask to borrow $100
• Disagree with everything the person says, and give no reason
• Eat while you talk.
• Ask them personal sexual questions.
• When emphasizing a point, hit them on the arm
• After the person finishes a point, say you are bored.

I’m sorry to be blunt about this, but these people are not your friends. These “friends,” as you call them, completely lack integrity as human beings. I don’t know what their problem with you stems from, and I don’t care. True friends don’t sneak behind your back engaging in activities after claiming they’re too busy to associate with you. Believe me, I myself have dealt with this kind of asshole behavior, primarily by my former “best friend.” Kick these conniving, heartless losers to the curb and the sooner, the better. You’ll thank yourself for doing so. Real, honest friendships may be difficult to find, but they’re out there, and you owe it to yourself to surround yourself with people who won’t jerk you around like these weeps are doing.

Silence is the absence of noise.

That’s it.

It’s not good or bad, positive or negative. It’s not a friend or a foe. It’s not a catastrophe or something to overcome. It just is.

I can legitimately attribute anything I want to it, look:

Silence is dark, awkward, uncomfortable, heavy, oppressive.

Silence is blue, peaceful, calm, quiet, still, tranquility.

If I find silence awkward it’s not what it is but what I bring to it. I am allowing something neutral to become a reflection of my insecurity.

If there is a pause in conversation and I decide I need to fill it, an innocuous pause becomes a gaping one, makes me restless, anxious, panicked.

If I decide silence is peaceful and a welcome oasis in a world full of noise I remain calm, smile, listen, sip my tea, wait a beat.

I resist the urge to flounder.

When silence gently comes over a conversation, I take a breath. This moment will reveal a confident me or an anxious me.

It’s not silence I am afraid of. It’s the part of me it will expose.

• When people ask you a simple question, don't respond with the habitual one word. Example - how are you? Don't say “I’m fine”. Say ‘I'm really doing terrible. I've been trying to figure out this complex math problem. Ugh. How are you?’
• When you are in social situations and you are scared of breaking the ice. Take a deep breath. That will allow you to think. Then say hello or hey there. Those two are the best ice breakers in the world.
• Always ask why. If people tell you their day is fine. Ask what made it fine. If they say something is difficult. Ask what made it so difficult. If they traveled somewhere. Ask why. Asking why people make decisions is how you get to know them on an emotional level.
• Ask interesting questions. Try to avoid foolishly simple questions that will always get you a one word answer. Ask creative questions such as - what's your story? What's the Craziest thing you have ever done? Who is the quoran you would love to see naked? What's your most scary goal in life? Do you believe in the pursuit of happiness? If you can be anything, what would you be?
• When you meet new people, be ready to carry the conversations for most of the beginning because most people are not comfortable with talking to strangers. So talk about you until you see that they are relaxed with you. Then give them a chance to talk.
• Dig for gold conversations ideas by observing their faces while you talk. When you get close to their interests, you'll notice that they'll perk up and listen to you more.
• MoDULatE your tone as you are telling your stories. When you are talking, don't do it with a boring voice tone. Put life and emotion into your voice. (Hint - watch comedy shows and Ted talks for inspiration)
• Don't droll on about your accomplishments. It will make you look arrogant and others don't really care. They want you to hear about their own accomplishments.
• Don't complain either. Complaining makes you a buzzkill and people see you as an emotional vampire. A thing to be avoided. When you are out there. Shut it about your problem. Deal with it in private or ask for help. Don't complain.
• Be updated on the latest topics you discuss with your friends. My conversations are never boring because there is always a new book or movie or encounter to discuss.
• Spy on your conversation partner with the Internet - if you are chanced to know the name of the person you want to meet or you've met them once. Then spy on them with Google, check their Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn pages. See what common things comes up. Those will give you ideas on what they'll like to talk about.

Chemistry, personality types, experiences, circumstance, and trust. These are four ingredients that make the social (or not social) creatures we call “people.” There are other ways to describe what makes us whatever it is that we are; people who study human behavior come up with categorizations and classifications and type/profile tests and surveys in an effort to further this understanding, like the Meyers-Briggs battery of questions that tries to identify where we “fit” in four spectrums (spectra? sounds like a plural of lurking ghosts).

You—we, people in general—are made to connect with some people more easily than others, while other connections are influenced by how people process their experiences and allow them to influence their behavior. Some people need connections with people more than others do. Some need solitude more than those people.

When ego influences how we process, we typically seek out what “works” for us—and we will do so at the expense of respecting others, which we could otherwise avoid with some personalities, but which we almost can't avoid with others. It could be the subject matter, it could be the attitude or spirit in which something gets expressed. It could be that the person someone is trying to connect with has just had a really crappy week, wants to be left alone, but someone else who has had his or her own crappy week believes that being around others is the way to cope, turn the week around, take back his or her joy. One wants to party, one wants to sleep and start over in the morning.

That’s how it goes. The diversity of personality types isn't really that great. In truth, we aren't complicated creatures, behaviorally speaking—but our nuances, shaped by histories that belong to each of us, but we don't even understand their full implications!!—lends to people not always getting along like we could.

But if we did all get along, I have a feeling that such a world would be pretty lame.

i hope this helps, and thank you for requesting my answer!

Before and after stories:

Before:

1. Had a friend who made me a easy target to share all unpleasant situations, complaints, sad stories. And was not available for my emotional stories. I tried to motivate, distract conversations, shared jokes nothing worked, forget about my emotional side sharing with this person, I turned into this person!
2. I started believing in all the stories, I started seeing my own life as a miserable one. Initially i thought wow i am a good human i am helping another being, I am listening to another humans issues. I thought listening to others issues was a social service. And my friend this is illusion of the mind!
3. Next forget about social service, I myself wanted help! I was a negative person with tons of complaints and started running away from even a small talk from a genuine person.
4. Next I realised and conveyed( long messages, long emails, face to face etc) this person what I was going through
5. Next this person was formal, no more I felt the closeness like before. All I wanted was to stop the negative part and not all the other good talks or informative talks or the genuine love part. I realised I encouraged, I trapped this person in sharing more negative and I got trapped! But slowly we both got back, we have good talks but formally, which is good enough for me! I wish and pray for this person!

After:

1. I then realised that social service mentality is fine, but have boundaries, have a limit in taking everything from others.
2. Now with all my new friendship or any relationship, I have a boundary set, I set a clear expectations just very beginning of the conversations not to others but myself. I give out signs to make the other person understand that I am not interested in deep problematic talks or complaint talks.
3. Now I call this a social service, I am happy and I am not encouraging the other person get stressed and increase their burden of life!
4. Now my people know what I can take and when they have to stop!. And still I love them they love me. I feel matured enough now to balance my inner and outer situations.

So below are something I did to get out of the easy target zone: (I am sure yours will not be a extreme case like me but you will not feel alone, many go through this phase! )

1. , I realised my other relationships also made me a easy target( small way actually, but was not too late to correct). I was encouraging many to share their sulking stories! I realised I have issues with my approach!
2. I just quit all social media, so I detached from everything outer, external, others etc. And asked family and friends some time off to correct some health (actually had lots, mainly deficiencies and imabalnces) and personal issues!.
3. Thing is people understand, they totally give space. I became my own therapist and sat with myself to see how I feel. I chose a path which is more to do with healing, meditation , yoga etc. Mind was quieter day by day. My personality changed. Took responsibility for all my actions and just focused on my routine for while.
4. Personality will slowly upgrade it self. Now is it easy? No! Others move on with their life, but inside we feel different. Also there will be fear of rejection, fear of change. But we need to approach life back slowly. Initially all will start asking where did you disappear or what happened etc. But then they will accept the new you and things will be fine again.
5. Now people approach me in a different way. I just have to let them be aware that I am no more the old self. Now they approach me with a healthy concern and if I can I help and vice versa.
6. Now when people try any deep dramatic issues or complaints I either go silent or just say I dont know if I can help or I dont know what to say. They immediately realise and start talking healthy. But genuine issues, genuine support, genuine help I always be there for others and help.
7. So basically we need to find a balance and identify which is a genuine conversation and which is not helping either of you.
8. You will reach a day when all your conversations go so well, that you are left with a sense of fullness and a sense of enrichment if its opposite then dont go deep into others unnecessary problem but go deep inside and say all is well and go on a vacation! ( in my case silent retreat inside the house, Temporary exit social media, nature time, meditation, yoga, mindfulness.

! I learnt the hard way but now seems right! If I disappear one day, life still goes on for others! now I am fine tuning to live with myself and in harmony with others!

So if it's happening with just one friend and you feel you dont want to lose the friendship then find a right way and approach. Mine also started with one friend and then i identified more of such experiences.

Wish you a right balance and this is just a phase, glad you have awareness , this is the first sign ! Next is bliss and bright side!.

I’d say you have two options:

1. Steer it back towards not being awkward
2. Leave the conversation

Let’s break down both of these points:

1. What is the source of the awkwardness? Is it you? Are you brave enough to mention you feel it? Awareness is a good thing. Nobody wants to be awkward, but I’ve found it can get that way, sometimes it is good to ask positive questions like “So what are you looking forward to in the near future?”
2. Some people really struggle with this because their self-awareness is limited to…themselves. They don’t want to be the awkward one but they want to flee the conversation. It’s as simple as saying “if you’ll excuse me, I would like to go to the bathroom/ I need to speak to that person/ I must be leaving now”. Why is that so scary? If you’re worried about the other person, don’t be, they probably aren’t thinking about you!

Conversations, like dancing in a club, can make you feel very aware.

Like you’re a big X and everyone else is a small x. Look how much you stand out.

xxxxxxXxxxxxx

But it’s only you that thinks you’re a big X. Everyone else thinks you’re small and they’re big, so the reality looks more like this.

XXXXXxXXXXX

Way less scary now right?

Not all of us have great social skills and not all of us enjoy the company of other people. To have a meaningful conversation with someone is not an easy feat to accomplish for introverts. First you have to ask yourself if you even want to establish a rapport with the other person or not, as this will decide how much effort you are willing to put in it. Don't feel bad if you don't want to, there is no need to have a huge circle of friends. One or two are enough.
After that it is all about listening and being a part of the conversation. You listen to what a person says, make a personal comment about it and follow up with a question. You do not remain silent, as it is the same thing as to say "(insert insult here), I don't care". You always have to make a personal comment or share an opinion or you will appear stand offish and uninterested. There is no need for this comment or opinion to be brilliant, or offer a solution to a problem or be insightful. The only thing that matters is to show that you were listening, that you care about what has been said.
A good way to have a conversation, when you don't like to talk, is to ask open questions, that can't be answered with a simple yes or no. Just make sure not to string one question after another as if you were interrogating the other person. (This is why it helps to state your opinion, or make a comment before asking the next question). And there are four topics everybody has something to say on: family, recreation (hobbies, interests), job (or school) and the best of all dreams (don't use that one with stranger though). I haven't met a person yet who hasn't got a dream a passion, or a goal or something they want to achieve and very often don't dare to or are told to get more sensible jobs.
Does your friend like books? Ask him/her if they ever thought of writing their own. Do they like art? Sports? Games? Movies? Ask if they ever thought that there must be more to life than working.
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Embrace it.

Not every moment of silence has to be filled. There is no rule stating such.

Change your view of an awkward silence and be eased forever. I am quite the shrinking violent when out or in conversation so I have been accustomed to awkwardness.

I used to try and fill the silence whenever the conversation would “die”, until I realised when we aren’t talking we’re usually thinking. Thinking about what we’ve just said and what we have heard.

Usually, when things go quiet people gather their thoughts and often come up with something that they can contribute to the conversation.

There’s no avoiding it, only embracing it. Welcome the awkwardness to your life, there will be a lot of it.

I can give a detailed response here and provide all the psychological aspects of her and your behavior towards each other but I will not waste your time on all that usual stuff and directly provide my solution to the issue that you raised here. You have to understand that you are just a dustbin for her which she uses to dump all her emotional crap into. Sorry to use such harsh words but please accept this harsh reality and keep a minimum or no contact with such people who do not know how to reciprocate in a relationship whether it is love or friendship. No relationship can sustain if the burden to keep it alive is on the shoulder of one person alone and the other one just don’t give a s**t about it.

I have a friend of mine that acts the same way. Which is why I meet her only once in three or four months just to hear her stories and laugh about them. I honestly don’t think we are truly friends. I don’t even care what happens to her as long as she is healthy and fine. I’d rather call her a funny-3-hour-company for the times when I am bored or just want to hang out but there is no one around. I thought we were friends in the very beginning but as quorans said before me, this can’t last long. The funny thing is, she thinks that me and other people I know are her best friends but we just listen and nod almost all the time when we meet her. In the past I would just block all connections to people like her but now I am totally fine. Respect and good manners are more important than my ego. I have enough other friends who would listen.

In your case It doesn’t seem you enjoy to listen very much your self-centerred friend, so I believe this is not a friendship and whatever it is it will end soon. It always does.

I've just answered the reverse of this question (why it's easier face to face) for another asker. The same reasons that make it harder for one person can make it easier for another, so let's try it from this perspective too:

• Lack of non-verbal cues. You don't have to worry about interpreting body language or facial expressions or making sure you are doing the “right” ones yourself. You don't have to deal with tone of voice or other vocal aspects either. Everything is conveyed purely by text.
• You have time to think and craft your replies. You are not put on the spot in the same way. If you tend to take a while to think this can be a considerable advantage.
• Emotional distance. No-one can tell if you are flustered or angry or upset. You have more control. You may not feel the same sense of threat. If you screw up you are not directly faced by the other person's reaction.
• You can take a break more easily without seeming (so) rude so it may not feel such an overwhelming prospect.
• If you are talking to people on social media a lot of the “introductions” can be done simply by reading their posts and getting an idea of who they are. You're not going in out of the blue the way you are with a real life stranger. And the posts themselves are a ready made conversation prompt.
• People cannot see you at all. If you are not happy with your appearance that takes a big worry out of the equation.
• You may also be talking to different kinds of people about different subjects online and this makes you more comfortable e.g. forums where you share a common interest or experience.
• There is nothing else you can see going on around you - no other people you think they would rather be talking to, TV they would rather be watching. It's easier to trust that they actually want to talk to you, because they could easily just sign off if they didn't.
• If you've previously had positive online interactions and negative face to face ones you may be more confident online. This can be something of a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Those are a few of the reasons that spring to mind for me. They may not all apply to you, but maybe a few ring true?

• Active Listen - The #1 “hack.” Pay attention to what someone says, work it over in your head and repeat it back to them summarizing what they just said. If someone tells you “It was a really hard day, I’m just so mad about this project at work.” You can say back “Wow, sounds rough, what’s the project?”
• Ask deeper questions - Notice the above response, it ended with a question asking to go deeper. Why is the project so frustrating. This is a hack because it’s subtly asking someone to reveal more information about themselves by thinking they’re talking about things.
• Get permission - Get them to ask for something that might otherwise have upset the texture of the conversation by getting their permission. Here’s how it works: “Well, not sure if you want to hear this, but I’d like to talk about X.” They’ll say “Oh no, please go ahead.” Now, you have their permission.
• Listen to your body, say how you feel - Here’s a “next level” hack: in a conversation, pay attention to how your body feels. If someone is talking and you get a knot in your stomach, if your face feels tight, if you find yourself fidgeting and getting excited, notice them. Then, bring them up in conversation. “When you’re telling me about this I’m really feeling a pit in my stomach. Is everything okay?” You probably don’t even need the question, you could just say the statement. Many times this will resonate with the speaker and they’ll answer it.
• Be okay with silence - Don’t feel like you have to talk. If you have nothing to say right away just say nothing.

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You ask an interesting question.

There were several good suggestions already here, but keep one thing in mind no matter what answer you get.

Nobody here has any clue what the social dynamics are within your group. That has a great deal to do with how any group situation may best be approached to achieve an acceptable resolution by all concerned.

I will offer you the approach I take to almost every difficulty that comes up involving others. It’s safe to do, because I do it before I bring the issue out in the open.

Not that I disbelieve your judgement of this person. This has become your perception of them, and our perception of anything is our reality. Even if we are wrong about it.

I will first find some quiet time and do some introspective thinking.

I’ll look at just how much of a role I played in how a situation came to be. Believe it or not, even if we have convinced ourselves we are only the “victim” in a situation, it is extremely rare when this is true.

If we are somehow affected by it, we played a role of some kind in its creation. Or at lest the choices we made placed us in the middle of it.

You said nothing about if you were a member of this group, and this person came along later. Or if you were the newer member. The last possibility is that the both of you have been in this group awhile and something changed between the two of you.

This is why looking to your own role first can help so much. People will respond much better to someone that brings up an issue, and includes their own responsibility in the matter.

I’m guessing that this person joined the group after you had been involved with the group long enough to establish your position within the group. Social groups have a sort of “pecking order” involved within them even if we don’t recognize it consciously.

Whenever a new individual joins the group, the dynamics of the group can be “shaken up” a bit and needs to settle again. It’s especially affected if the new person has a personality that is stronger than several of the others already in it, but not strong enough to concern everyone.

It can affect even the dynamics of the relationships found between specific members of the group.

When I look back I try to see if anything was going on within me as a reaction to the changes within the group.

Ask yourself if you felt you lost some degree of personal status within the group, or someone you were close to in the group began to show interest in this newer person.

It’s not hard to quickly negatively judge someone that messes with your world, even when they have no idea whats going on.

Once you decide you don’t like someone, you see them through eyes that reflect your dislike, and will actually begin looking for reasons that support your opinion.

There’s more to this story than your question exposes and only you know what that is.

If you develop the habit of looking first at your own behaviors before stirring things up you’ll become more aware of personal things you can work on to improve who you are.

In the end you must either accept this person as a member, and show them the same respect you show everyone else, or find another group. You could even place your individuality above a group identity and spend some time just being yourself.

Always remain true to the person you know yourself to be.

You should ask why you can't stand them and be honest with yourself. I can see the following scenarios:

1. You outgrow them. So you should seek new social circle and keep a healthy distance. It happens with time, just don't be mean. Probably distance will make great things for your relationship
2. Your friends are bully, judgemental or ignorant people and you don't feel comfortable around them so if it's toxic you should end the friendship or ghost them
3. You don't make effort and don't show interest in other people enough, so you should make an effort to show interest in other people instead of expecting things to be your way all the time .

Get naked, slowly get naked, repeat everything they say in a questioning tone, close your eyes and just randomly murmur “Mmhmm”, ask them to explain what they mean after everything they say, stare at them wide eyed and whisper “You smell great”, tell someone they look so much prettier when they're awake, ask someone who they hate then tell them you love that person, in the middle of any sentence just ask them to smell your finger, ask them “Can you believe how many idiots think the world is round?”, keep asking questions but in the middle of every reply ask another question, stand inches from them and act perfectly natural about the whole thing, look them in the eyes while they're talking but every now and then slowly drag your eyes to somewhere else on their face and look slightly confused.

Just to name a few.

It is possible that the individuals you spend time with do not share your interests or values. You might discover that their conversations fail to ignite your curiosity or engage your mind meaningfully. This doesn't imply that these individuals aren't likable or that you can't enjoy their company; instead, it highlights a disconnect in the depth of interaction.

Conversely, suppose you recognize this lack of connection and choose not to share your thoughts or introduce aspects of who you are into the conversation. In that case, you might feel socially isolated or even antisocial. This disconnection can lead to feelings of disengagement, as you may not be interested in what your friends are discussing while they remain unaware of your perspective. Consequently, this lack of mutual exchange can hinder the development of any actual interaction or more profound relationship between you and your peers.

A fulfilling conversation often stems from mental stimulation; it requires some form of provocation that triggers thoughts, invites discussion, or elicits reactions. It's essential to acknowledge that many people crave attention, and this desire can manifest in seeking to be the focus of conversations, sometimes through excessive or abrasive behavior.

It's important not to berate yourself for choosing not to engage in conversation while in the company of others. Remember, you are an individual with your own identity, just as those around you possess theirs. Nevertheless, if you withdraw from social interactions, it's worth contemplating the reasons behind this behavior. This introspection is crucial, as the insights you seek are already present within you. Ask yourself these probing questions, explore your motivations, and reflect on the barriers that may be holding you back. Once you gain clarity on these matters, taking appropriate steps to alter your situation and foster more meaningful connections in your life will be vital.